INSPIRED LIVING DAILY
27 August 2010
In this issue :
1) Inspirational Quote of the Week
2) Success Secret - "Desire"
3) Success Secret - "Persistence"
4) Success Secret - "Subconscious Mind"
5) Inspiring story of a young man's business "start up"
A Warm Welcome once again to ALL my Subscribers !
And as ever, a particularly warm welcome to any NEW subscribers from
anywhere in the world, it's great to have you here ! I say this every
week because I mean it sincerely, I really want to hear from YOU. My
email is oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk. If there are any topics
or issues of an inspirational/motivational nature you would like me
to cover be sure to let me know !
So this week I thought I would take a look at the theme of "Success".
Now I firmly believe that we ALL have the seeds of amazing success
within us but, for whatever resaon, those seeds are not "watered" to
become a wonderful harvest of fulfilled hopes and dreams. This to me
is a waste of a God given potential. It seems that for some people
success comes easy and follows them all their lives, think
of Richard Branson or Bill Gates ? For others, they have both spectacular
successes and failures, yet again some people have modest successes
while some people go through life without any visible evidence of
success going from one problem to another!
So this got me thinking as to whether there are any "Secrets of Success"
and if so what are they. Well Napoleon Hill who wrote the classic
book "Think and Grow Rich" certainly believed that there were secrets
to getting rich and successful. In fact he identified 13 to be precise
as follows :Desire; Faith; Auto Suggestion; Specialised Knowledge;
Imagination; Organised Planning; Decision; Persistence; Mastermind;
Transmutation; Subconscious Mind; The Brain and Sixth Sense.
Today I am going to look at three of these being Desire, Persistence
and the Subconscious Mind.Enjoy !
____________________________________________________________________
Inspirational Quote of the Week
____________________________________________________________________
"No Man has a chance to enjoy Permanent Success until he begins to
look in a mirror for the real cause of his mistakes."
Napoleon Hill
___________________________________________________________________
Secret of Success - "Desire"
____________________________________________________________________
So a question for you. What is it that you want TODAY ? Do you "want" to be
successful, happy, healthy, rich, famous, attractive or whatever
you really "want".
Napoleon Hill identified as his first and primary motivation for
success as "Desire". And do you know what "Want" just doesn't get
anywhere near "Desire".
Let me explain it's simple really, if you say you "want" something
it is usually because on the other side of a "want" is a "lack".
Many people say they want success or riches or whatever but if you
examine what is going on at a subconscious level it is obvious
that the "wanting" is just wishful thinking. There is no passion
or excitement behind the wanted or hoped for thing or experience in
other words a lack of "desire".
Leslie Fieger is his ebook "Napoleon Hill's 13 Success Secrets Revealed"
says as follows :
"The sad truth about most people who claim to want success is that they
actually do not desire success.What they desire is comfort and security.
The path to real success often demands that you give up comfort and
security in order to gain rewards greater than mere creature comforts and
minor financial security. "
He goes on to say that for many years he "wanted" success and riches
but all the "wanting" in the world didn't get him what he wanted !
Describing how he made the breakthrough he says as follows :
"It was the burning passion of fervent desire that pushed me out of
my comfort zone of mediocrity and security and empowered me to achieve
real success. It was my desire that enabled me to get past the fear
of failure and get past the frustrations of obstacles to achieve the
success I had wanted for so many years".
So today I challenge you to ask youreself " Are you "wants" really
"desires" and what can you do to turn your wants into real desires ?"
____________________________________________________________________
Success Secret - Persistence
____________________________________________________________________
So another question for you today is how "persistent" are you or
are you prepared to be in your quest for success ? Have you had
a few setbacks or failures in life and decided to settle for a life
of struggle, mediocrity and complacency ?
Or somewhere deep in your soul and being do you still have a desire
to change your life and cirumstances ? Are you tired of the limiting
beliefs and bad habits that are holding you back ? Are you prepared to
"persist" until you succeed ?
Napoleon Hill himself said this :
" Persistence is an essential factor in transmuting desire into its
monetary equivalent."
He went on to explain that desire, otherwise known as passion,plus
the power of will (persistence) make an irresistible pair and almost
always end up producing wealth.
You know that is is clear that many many people give up on life and
on their dreams and goals far too early when in reality with a just
a little bit more desire and persistence they would have triumphed !
Just think of all those people who are now just tombstones in the
grave yard who with just an extra push could have achieved great
things for themselves and humanity !
Calvin Coolidge said this :
"Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will
not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius
will not;unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not;
the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination
alone are omnipotent."
Just remember a long attention span otherwise known as persistence
combined with determination is an attribute shared by all successful
people !
____________________________________________________________________
Success Secret - The Subconscious Mind
____________________________________________________________________
As I have said before in this newsletter people today are more
enlightened about the real "power of the mind" than I believe at any
prior time in human history !
You see it is clear that all success and failure reside in the mind
and only by learning to consciously create success in our minds will
we achieve the success most of us desire.
The problem is that most people don't understand that it is the
subconscious mind rather than the conscious mind where the
programming of the mind has to take place. Consciously we may say that
we desire success but buried deep in our subconscious mind are
programmes and patterns of perhaps failure that are sabotaging our
best efforts to conciously create what we desire.
Little do we realise until it is pointed out to us that it is our
subconscious mind that determines our beliefs, thoughts, actions
and therefore our results. The results we are experiencing in life
are a consequence of the working of the subconscious mind, this explains
why many people have litle success with affirmations or positive
statements. You may say aloud " I am successful" or" I am rich"
but if your subconscious mind is silently sabotaging your conscious
beliefs then the affirmations will not work !
The good news is that the subconscious mind can be programmed and controlled
by the concious mind.This can be done by the utilisation of
meditative techniques or even Emotional Freedom techniques
or again Subliminal Messaging !
If Napoleon Hill even at the time of writing his book sixty years
ago had an awareness of the impact of the subconscious mind on success
then there really is no excuse for any of us in the twenty first century
not to look into this. Once you realise that you have a limiting
belief or negative thought pattern then you really must do something
to address that if you desire to be successful.
For more on Napoleon Hill's 13 Success Secrees go here :
http://www.ezau.com/latest/articles/0131.shtml
____________________________________________________________________
Inspiring story of business "start up" success
____________________________________________________________________
Philip Mossop may not be an household name. But this young man from
Burley in the UK had the desire to become his own boss !
Learn more about his motivation and what inspired him to open two businesses
in the space of six months ? Asked, "What would you have done differently
if you could go back?" he says, "Absolutely nothing: you learn as much
from your mistakes as your successes."
What a tremendous outlook and philosophy !
http://www.no-limits.org.uk/success-stories/person/philip_mossop
____________________________________________________________________
Well that just about wraps it up for another week ! I do hope and
trust that you have learnt something from the "secrets of success"
and Napoleon Hill's work. Now go out and apply what you have read and
learnt !
A special thank you to one of my subscribers "Thelma" this week for
all your kind comments on my work, I appreciate you ! I will be
looking for more Inspiration again in the next week scouring the
internet on your behalf for more success, wealth and happiness topics.
Please let me know what you want to see in these newsletters and all
your feedback and suggestions as to how to improve the newsletter ?
Don't forget to visit me at my Facebook Fan Page :
http://tiny.cc/hnmdq and on Twitter @ www.twitter.com/BInspiredDaily.
Also at my blog @ http://inspiredlivingdaily.blogspot.com/
Until next time,
God Bless and BE INSPIRED !
Oliver
www.inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Friday 27 August 2010
Thursday 26 August 2010
Men After Divorce
So if you are reading this article today you are probably a divorced man maybe just recently or a while ago ? So how has life been since your divorce, were you relieved and just happy to be out of a bad situation or are you still struggling ? If you have kids where do they live, sometimes with you, sometimes with your "ex", did you have to sell your family home to make a "proper division" of your assets and to pay your legal costs ? Are you on "good terms" with your ex or is communication still difficult ?
You know it's not fashionable, never has been for men, even in this "new man" era to talk about their feelings, it's just not the done thing for "macho" strong men to break down and cry in front of their mates even if they want to. No, men are more likely to go and drown their sorrows with a few too many drinks at the bar adding to their problems !
Let's face it divorce is unpleasant ! Even the most harmonious "it is best for all concerned" divorces leaves scars for both parties ! Men in particular are the most vulnerable for the already identified inability to share their feelings and confide in their peers for fear of looking "weak". But it is a sad fact that a number of men faced with losing everything they have worked hard for, their children, their homes and money flip ! Some commit suicide and others end up "broken" , alcoholics homeless and hopeless in the gutter !
Now this article isn't about creating a "Doomsday" scenario ! We all , men and women, have to move on in life after divorce and, especially if children are involved, do the best we can for them in the situation !
However it has to be acknowledged that most, if not all, men will experience a common list of emotional problems and other difficulties after divorce. This can range from depression, to feelings of resentment that eat away at you, to financial struggles based on the divorce division which affects your attitude to money, to a broken family with your children as victims of divorce, to problems believing you will ever find happiness again.
Also may be experienced painful memories about the past, doing poorly on your job,low self esteem and lack of confidence based on the rejection you may have experienced, problems in trusting and finding love again and feeling "emasculated" or less of a man !
These are common feelings and experiences of men after the divorce. The problem is if you get "stuck" there and not able to deal with these issues in a timely manner. The sad fact is that some men can get stuck in an hole so deep that even if they manage to dig themselves out the route back to happiness and success in life and relationships is a long and difficult one.
The aim for all people and indeed all men after divorce is to be "happily divorced", such that the divorce is not the final chapter in any divorced man's life. Just like the grieving process after a bereavement must come to an end so the "grieving" for a lost relationship must also come to an end.
The aim for men in particular after divorce is to reassert one's self belief that despite having a failed marriage does not mean that you "as a man" have failed and to reconnect with one's "inner knowing" that one is still a good man and, if there are children involved, a "good father."
Sadly some men fall by the wayside but that doesn't have to happen to you !If you can deal with your own "emotional turmoil" after divorce in as well adjusted a manner as possible, you can go on to lead a successful and happy life once more. However it is useful to be able to apply some techniques and mental strategies that will help numb the grief and emotional pain in finding the future once again.I have found a great resource that I would like to recommend today. This is from a gentleman himself who experienced the "negatives" of divorce before deciding to help his "fellow" man find a better way out. For more on this from a male "survivor" of divorce go here.
You know it's not fashionable, never has been for men, even in this "new man" era to talk about their feelings, it's just not the done thing for "macho" strong men to break down and cry in front of their mates even if they want to. No, men are more likely to go and drown their sorrows with a few too many drinks at the bar adding to their problems !
Let's face it divorce is unpleasant ! Even the most harmonious "it is best for all concerned" divorces leaves scars for both parties ! Men in particular are the most vulnerable for the already identified inability to share their feelings and confide in their peers for fear of looking "weak". But it is a sad fact that a number of men faced with losing everything they have worked hard for, their children, their homes and money flip ! Some commit suicide and others end up "broken" , alcoholics homeless and hopeless in the gutter !
Now this article isn't about creating a "Doomsday" scenario ! We all , men and women, have to move on in life after divorce and, especially if children are involved, do the best we can for them in the situation !
However it has to be acknowledged that most, if not all, men will experience a common list of emotional problems and other difficulties after divorce. This can range from depression, to feelings of resentment that eat away at you, to financial struggles based on the divorce division which affects your attitude to money, to a broken family with your children as victims of divorce, to problems believing you will ever find happiness again.
Also may be experienced painful memories about the past, doing poorly on your job,low self esteem and lack of confidence based on the rejection you may have experienced, problems in trusting and finding love again and feeling "emasculated" or less of a man !
These are common feelings and experiences of men after the divorce. The problem is if you get "stuck" there and not able to deal with these issues in a timely manner. The sad fact is that some men can get stuck in an hole so deep that even if they manage to dig themselves out the route back to happiness and success in life and relationships is a long and difficult one.
The aim for all people and indeed all men after divorce is to be "happily divorced", such that the divorce is not the final chapter in any divorced man's life. Just like the grieving process after a bereavement must come to an end so the "grieving" for a lost relationship must also come to an end.
The aim for men in particular after divorce is to reassert one's self belief that despite having a failed marriage does not mean that you "as a man" have failed and to reconnect with one's "inner knowing" that one is still a good man and, if there are children involved, a "good father."
Sadly some men fall by the wayside but that doesn't have to happen to you !If you can deal with your own "emotional turmoil" after divorce in as well adjusted a manner as possible, you can go on to lead a successful and happy life once more. However it is useful to be able to apply some techniques and mental strategies that will help numb the grief and emotional pain in finding the future once again.I have found a great resource that I would like to recommend today. This is from a gentleman himself who experienced the "negatives" of divorce before deciding to help his "fellow" man find a better way out. For more on this from a male "survivor" of divorce go here.
Monday 23 August 2010
How to Persuade
What skill do ALL the most successful people in history possess ? Well it should be obvious that successful people have many highly effective skills but by far the most important is that of, wait for it, "Persuasion" !
The incredible power available to those who are able to persuade others has been know for centuries. As long ago as 400BC Greek philosopher Plato was famous for saying, "Persuasion is the key to power". The ability to persuade, and influence others brings great power to those that possess this ability.
'Wikipedia' the Free Encyclopedia says as follows : "Persuasion is a form of social influence. It is the process of guiding oneself or another toward the adoption of an idea, attitude, or action by rational and symbolic (though not always logical) means."
There are various methods of persuasion to be utilised including "Weapons of Influence"; "Relationship based Persuasion" and "Propoganda" !"
Under the "Weapons of Influence" category we have 6 identified types :
1)'Reciprocity' meaning essentially "one good turn deserves another " or people returning a favour;
2)'Commitment and consistency' meaning that once something has been agreed to in principle then people are more likely to follow through even if the goal posts subsequently change;
3)'Social proof' meaning that people are persuaded by what others are doing;
4)'Authority' meaning that people will follow leaders and authority figures even if asked to do objectionable acts eg in time of war;
5)'Liking'- people are more easily persuaded by people they like and this also pertains to being persuaded by physically attractive people;
6)'Scarcity'- people ae persuaded by lack or scarcity of a product or service.
Whilst the methods of persuasion are important in and of themselves, it is the abilty to personally "master" persuasion techniques and methods that is going to enable any person to achieve great success in their personal and professional lives.
For example it is proven that those who have well developed persuasion skills are able to negotiate a higher salary for themselves and indeed promotions in their job or career.
Having a highly persuasive personality will lead to increased opportunities in the business arena and increased sales. Being persuasive leads to greater success in dating and relationships and as a parent in influencing children to do your bidding. Or in getting people to listen to you and not ignore your ideas and suggestions.
So why is it that some people have highly developed persuasion skills and others can't even persuade themselves to do anything let alone others ? Are persuaders "born" or "made" and do you know "how to persuade" ?
Well it should be obvious from the above that it is possible to learn the skills of persuasion that others possess.The fact is that it has been discovered that those with an heightened abilty to persuade others to do their bidding have certain thinking or psychological "habits". In fact one "expert" who has studied persuasion for over twenty years has he believes identified "seven thinking habits" that highly effective persuaders utilise to their ultimate success.
If you feel that you would like to enhance your persuasion skills and learn how to persuade to ensure massive success in all areas of your life, then I believe that you can learn and apply these skills as taught by a best selling expert in this field. For more information on the 7 thinking habits of highly persuasive people go here.
The incredible power available to those who are able to persuade others has been know for centuries. As long ago as 400BC Greek philosopher Plato was famous for saying, "Persuasion is the key to power". The ability to persuade, and influence others brings great power to those that possess this ability.
'Wikipedia' the Free Encyclopedia says as follows : "Persuasion is a form of social influence. It is the process of guiding oneself or another toward the adoption of an idea, attitude, or action by rational and symbolic (though not always logical) means."
There are various methods of persuasion to be utilised including "Weapons of Influence"; "Relationship based Persuasion" and "Propoganda" !"
Under the "Weapons of Influence" category we have 6 identified types :
1)'Reciprocity' meaning essentially "one good turn deserves another " or people returning a favour;
2)'Commitment and consistency' meaning that once something has been agreed to in principle then people are more likely to follow through even if the goal posts subsequently change;
3)'Social proof' meaning that people are persuaded by what others are doing;
4)'Authority' meaning that people will follow leaders and authority figures even if asked to do objectionable acts eg in time of war;
5)'Liking'- people are more easily persuaded by people they like and this also pertains to being persuaded by physically attractive people;
6)'Scarcity'- people ae persuaded by lack or scarcity of a product or service.
Whilst the methods of persuasion are important in and of themselves, it is the abilty to personally "master" persuasion techniques and methods that is going to enable any person to achieve great success in their personal and professional lives.
For example it is proven that those who have well developed persuasion skills are able to negotiate a higher salary for themselves and indeed promotions in their job or career.
Having a highly persuasive personality will lead to increased opportunities in the business arena and increased sales. Being persuasive leads to greater success in dating and relationships and as a parent in influencing children to do your bidding. Or in getting people to listen to you and not ignore your ideas and suggestions.
So why is it that some people have highly developed persuasion skills and others can't even persuade themselves to do anything let alone others ? Are persuaders "born" or "made" and do you know "how to persuade" ?
Well it should be obvious from the above that it is possible to learn the skills of persuasion that others possess.The fact is that it has been discovered that those with an heightened abilty to persuade others to do their bidding have certain thinking or psychological "habits". In fact one "expert" who has studied persuasion for over twenty years has he believes identified "seven thinking habits" that highly effective persuaders utilise to their ultimate success.
If you feel that you would like to enhance your persuasion skills and learn how to persuade to ensure massive success in all areas of your life, then I believe that you can learn and apply these skills as taught by a best selling expert in this field. For more information on the 7 thinking habits of highly persuasive people go here.
Friday 20 August 2010
Inspired Living Daily - 20/8/10 - "What is YOUR "Money Blueprint" Today ?"
INSPIRED LIVING DAILY
20 August 2010
In this issue :
1)Inspirational "Quote of the Week";
2)What are YOUR beliefs about "wealth" and money;
3)What is spirituality anyway ?
4)How to be both Spiritual AND Wealthy (A marriage of convenience !)
5)Inspiring story of a Chinese philanthropist !
Hello again and a very Warm Welcome to ALL !
As ever, a special welcome to any new subscribers this week wherever
you are in the world, it's great to have you here ! I would really
love to hear from you particularly if anything you read in this
newsletter resonates with you and/or if you apply any of the wisdom
shared here. Be sure to email me : Oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Also a reminder that if you would like a few nuggets of Daily
Inspiration I have a Fan Page on Facebook under "Oliver Kent -
Inspired Living Daily". The link is here : http://tiny.cc/hnmdq
So, this week, I thought that I would take as my theme the topic of
spirituality and wealth. I think we are now in a period of greater
enlightenment than ever concerning the "spiritual laws" of the
Universe. Films like "The Secret" and the knowledge base offered
by the Law of Attraction have opened people's eyes to learning about
these laws in a way only understood by a handful of people in previous
generations ? Despite this new "knowledge" there are still people
who struggle with the idea of being both "spiritual" and "rich".
Today's Newletter examines some of these dilemmas and hopes to
present you with a new reality.
__________________________________________________________________
Inspirational Quote of the Week
__________________________________________________________________
"Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in every way and that your
body may keep well, even as I know your soul keeps well and
prospers." The Bible, 3 John : 2
__________________________________________________________________
What are YOUR beliefs about "wealth" and money ?
_________________________________________________________________
Question for you today : Have you heard of something called "The
Money Blueprint " ? Yes/No/Perhaps ?
Well this phrase was coined by T Harv Baker and essentially relates
to YOUR beliefs about money. It is suggested that your current
financial reality is a direct reflection of your beliefs about money.
Now for some people that may be an unpalatable truth requiring one
to take stock and examine that for just a moment ?!
I mean that if you are "living pay cheque to pay cheque" what is that
saying to you and, more importantly, what are the underlying and core
beliefs that inform that "lack" position ?
An article in "the-wealthy-internet-entrepreneur.com" says as
follows :
"knowing what beliefs you have about money, and therefore
understanding why your financial situation is the way it is, is
the first step in changing your money blueprint, your wealth beliefs,
so that you can start having more success with money. "
Now most people carry with them negative or limiting beliefs about
money. I am not going to rehearse them all here, most people have
an awareness of these. The fact is however that in order to adopt
a more positive "money blueprint" then one really does have to
get to grips with one's negative money beliefs.
Adopting what is known as "wealth consciousness" will attract more
money and better opportunities into your life.Having supportive
money beliefs will give you an "optimistic attitude that you have
full control over your financial situation, that you make your life
as you choose."
For more today on creating an effective "money blueprint" in your
life go here :
http://www.the-wealthy-internet-entrepreneur.com/wealth-beliefs.html
__________________________________________________________________
What is spirituality anyway ?
__________________________________________________________________
As the theme of the Newsletter this week is about the marriage of
spirituality and wealth I thought I would ask a question about the
nature of spirituality ? More importantly about spirituality in the
context of money and wealth.
Now Mother Theresa is one of the "icons" of spirituality of this
generation, known throughout the world for the work she did
as a humanitarian and advocate for the poor and helpless. At the
time of her death in 1997 her Missionaries of Charity was operating
610 missions in 123 countries, including hospices and homes for
people with HIV/AIDS, leprosy and tuberculosis, soup kitchens,
children's and family counselling programs, orphanages, and schools.
What is interesting to me is that Mother Theresa had a belief in
the "spiritual goodness of poverty". As a Cathoic nun that is
perhaps understandable but not many of us are called in life to
such a deep understanding of this kind. After all most of us live
in the "real world" where we have mortgages and bills to pay and
sadly "poverty" doesn't take you very far there ! It goes without
saying that because of Mother Theresa's high profile attracting
money for her humanitarian work was never an issue. She became
almost a "celebrity" in her own right.
It is my belief that to accept a position in life where one is
conflicted between one's spritual beliefs and acquiring wealth is
not what the Creator (God) intended. What is important is the "intention"
behind the desire to create wealth and having a specific purpose
for that desire.By adopting a stance of "poverty" based on one's
spirituality one is then continually in a state of dependence on
others both individuals and institutions. Whilst a temporary state
of poverty may be enlightening, I am of the firm belief that a more
"empowered" position is to be both spiritual AND wealthy.
For an interesting article entitled "10 Spiritual Money Practices
to Eliminate Poverty" go here :
http://reallifespirituality.com/spiritual-money-practice/
__________________________________________________________________
How to be both Spiritual and Wealthy
_________________________________________________________________
So if you have read through this Newsletter so far you may have
accepted or indeed not, it's your choice, that you can be both spiritual
and wealthy in life ? Indeed that is an entirely consistent position
to aim for in my opinion.
I am always impressed by a British TV programme called "The Secret
Millionaire". In that programme self confessed millionaires, many
of whom are very wealthy indeed, are invited to go and live in
a "run down" or socially and economically deprived area of Britain
"under cover". They are usually offered a very ordinary house or
flat with a lack of amenities that they probably have never
experienced before in their lives or at least for a very long time.
They then go into the local communities and "volunteer" their
services to charitable projects or agencies of one kind or another.
At the end of the programme their cover is "blown" and they then
give large financial donations to what they consider the most deserving.
My point here is that these are individuals whose whole "reason
for existing" has been about making money or becoming wealthy.
For a number of them being exposed to the difficulties that some
people experience in life gives them an whole knew understanding.
My belief is that in the act of "giving" their time and money in this
way is showing them the link between spirituality and wealth ?
Of course if they weren't wealthy in the first place this would be
a non starter.
Wealth in and of itself is a "neutral" thing. For me the only reason
to be "wealthy" is for the good one can do with it. And it is in
the "doing good" that one's spritual gifts are nurtured.
Finding one's "purpose" in life is I believe a spiritual thing and
can lead to great wealth of one kind or another. Serving people and
helping people find solutions to their problems are both spiritual
practices and in the process have made many people vastly wealthy.
For more on the convenient "marriage" of spirituality and wealth
go here :
http://ezinearticles.com/?Spirituality-and-Wealth&id=1442362
__________________________________________________________________
Inspiring Story of a Chinese philanthropist
__________________________________________________________________
"Yu Pengnian's journey from poor street hawker to Hong Kong real
estate magnate was already a remarkable one. Then the 88 year old
did something even rarer that shocked many in increasingly
materialistic China: He gave it all away.
Mr. Yu is pleased to have his family's support, but says he would
have gone ahead with his philanthropy with or without their
approval. "I don't care what others think. It makes me happy to
give my money away. I used to be poor." "
For more on this amazing story go here :
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/world/chinese-philanthropist-
donates-it-all/article1650447/
__________________________________________________________________
Well, as they say, "that's all there is for now folks". I do hope that
you have enjoyed this week's "themed" newsletter. I shall be looking
for more Inspiration in the coming week to help you on your
journey to greater success, more enlightenment, better relationships
or whatever area you would like to develop in life. Please email me
:Oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk and let me know what you would
like to see covered in future editions.
Don't forget to look out for the mid week Article on a personal
development/self improvement theme to your In box. Also join me
on the Facebook Fan page : http://tiny.cc/hnmdq
Until next time,
God bless and BE INSPIRED !
Oliver
http://inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
20 August 2010
In this issue :
1)Inspirational "Quote of the Week";
2)What are YOUR beliefs about "wealth" and money;
3)What is spirituality anyway ?
4)How to be both Spiritual AND Wealthy (A marriage of convenience !)
5)Inspiring story of a Chinese philanthropist !
Hello again and a very Warm Welcome to ALL !
As ever, a special welcome to any new subscribers this week wherever
you are in the world, it's great to have you here ! I would really
love to hear from you particularly if anything you read in this
newsletter resonates with you and/or if you apply any of the wisdom
shared here. Be sure to email me : Oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Also a reminder that if you would like a few nuggets of Daily
Inspiration I have a Fan Page on Facebook under "Oliver Kent -
Inspired Living Daily". The link is here : http://tiny.cc/hnmdq
So, this week, I thought that I would take as my theme the topic of
spirituality and wealth. I think we are now in a period of greater
enlightenment than ever concerning the "spiritual laws" of the
Universe. Films like "The Secret" and the knowledge base offered
by the Law of Attraction have opened people's eyes to learning about
these laws in a way only understood by a handful of people in previous
generations ? Despite this new "knowledge" there are still people
who struggle with the idea of being both "spiritual" and "rich".
Today's Newletter examines some of these dilemmas and hopes to
present you with a new reality.
__________________________________________________________________
Inspirational Quote of the Week
__________________________________________________________________
"Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in every way and that your
body may keep well, even as I know your soul keeps well and
prospers." The Bible, 3 John : 2
__________________________________________________________________
What are YOUR beliefs about "wealth" and money ?
_________________________________________________________________
Question for you today : Have you heard of something called "The
Money Blueprint " ? Yes/No/Perhaps ?
Well this phrase was coined by T Harv Baker and essentially relates
to YOUR beliefs about money. It is suggested that your current
financial reality is a direct reflection of your beliefs about money.
Now for some people that may be an unpalatable truth requiring one
to take stock and examine that for just a moment ?!
I mean that if you are "living pay cheque to pay cheque" what is that
saying to you and, more importantly, what are the underlying and core
beliefs that inform that "lack" position ?
An article in "the-wealthy-internet-entrepreneur.com" says as
follows :
"knowing what beliefs you have about money, and therefore
understanding why your financial situation is the way it is, is
the first step in changing your money blueprint, your wealth beliefs,
so that you can start having more success with money. "
Now most people carry with them negative or limiting beliefs about
money. I am not going to rehearse them all here, most people have
an awareness of these. The fact is however that in order to adopt
a more positive "money blueprint" then one really does have to
get to grips with one's negative money beliefs.
Adopting what is known as "wealth consciousness" will attract more
money and better opportunities into your life.Having supportive
money beliefs will give you an "optimistic attitude that you have
full control over your financial situation, that you make your life
as you choose."
For more today on creating an effective "money blueprint" in your
life go here :
http://www.the-wealthy-internet-entrepreneur.com/wealth-beliefs.html
__________________________________________________________________
What is spirituality anyway ?
__________________________________________________________________
As the theme of the Newsletter this week is about the marriage of
spirituality and wealth I thought I would ask a question about the
nature of spirituality ? More importantly about spirituality in the
context of money and wealth.
Now Mother Theresa is one of the "icons" of spirituality of this
generation, known throughout the world for the work she did
as a humanitarian and advocate for the poor and helpless. At the
time of her death in 1997 her Missionaries of Charity was operating
610 missions in 123 countries, including hospices and homes for
people with HIV/AIDS, leprosy and tuberculosis, soup kitchens,
children's and family counselling programs, orphanages, and schools.
What is interesting to me is that Mother Theresa had a belief in
the "spiritual goodness of poverty". As a Cathoic nun that is
perhaps understandable but not many of us are called in life to
such a deep understanding of this kind. After all most of us live
in the "real world" where we have mortgages and bills to pay and
sadly "poverty" doesn't take you very far there ! It goes without
saying that because of Mother Theresa's high profile attracting
money for her humanitarian work was never an issue. She became
almost a "celebrity" in her own right.
It is my belief that to accept a position in life where one is
conflicted between one's spritual beliefs and acquiring wealth is
not what the Creator (God) intended. What is important is the "intention"
behind the desire to create wealth and having a specific purpose
for that desire.By adopting a stance of "poverty" based on one's
spirituality one is then continually in a state of dependence on
others both individuals and institutions. Whilst a temporary state
of poverty may be enlightening, I am of the firm belief that a more
"empowered" position is to be both spiritual AND wealthy.
For an interesting article entitled "10 Spiritual Money Practices
to Eliminate Poverty" go here :
http://reallifespirituality.com/spiritual-money-practice/
__________________________________________________________________
How to be both Spiritual and Wealthy
_________________________________________________________________
So if you have read through this Newsletter so far you may have
accepted or indeed not, it's your choice, that you can be both spiritual
and wealthy in life ? Indeed that is an entirely consistent position
to aim for in my opinion.
I am always impressed by a British TV programme called "The Secret
Millionaire". In that programme self confessed millionaires, many
of whom are very wealthy indeed, are invited to go and live in
a "run down" or socially and economically deprived area of Britain
"under cover". They are usually offered a very ordinary house or
flat with a lack of amenities that they probably have never
experienced before in their lives or at least for a very long time.
They then go into the local communities and "volunteer" their
services to charitable projects or agencies of one kind or another.
At the end of the programme their cover is "blown" and they then
give large financial donations to what they consider the most deserving.
My point here is that these are individuals whose whole "reason
for existing" has been about making money or becoming wealthy.
For a number of them being exposed to the difficulties that some
people experience in life gives them an whole knew understanding.
My belief is that in the act of "giving" their time and money in this
way is showing them the link between spirituality and wealth ?
Of course if they weren't wealthy in the first place this would be
a non starter.
Wealth in and of itself is a "neutral" thing. For me the only reason
to be "wealthy" is for the good one can do with it. And it is in
the "doing good" that one's spritual gifts are nurtured.
Finding one's "purpose" in life is I believe a spiritual thing and
can lead to great wealth of one kind or another. Serving people and
helping people find solutions to their problems are both spiritual
practices and in the process have made many people vastly wealthy.
For more on the convenient "marriage" of spirituality and wealth
go here :
http://ezinearticles.com/?Spirituality-and-Wealth&id=1442362
__________________________________________________________________
Inspiring Story of a Chinese philanthropist
__________________________________________________________________
"Yu Pengnian's journey from poor street hawker to Hong Kong real
estate magnate was already a remarkable one. Then the 88 year old
did something even rarer that shocked many in increasingly
materialistic China: He gave it all away.
Mr. Yu is pleased to have his family's support, but says he would
have gone ahead with his philanthropy with or without their
approval. "I don't care what others think. It makes me happy to
give my money away. I used to be poor." "
For more on this amazing story go here :
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/world/chinese-philanthropist-
donates-it-all/article1650447/
__________________________________________________________________
Well, as they say, "that's all there is for now folks". I do hope that
you have enjoyed this week's "themed" newsletter. I shall be looking
for more Inspiration in the coming week to help you on your
journey to greater success, more enlightenment, better relationships
or whatever area you would like to develop in life. Please email me
:Oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk and let me know what you would
like to see covered in future editions.
Don't forget to look out for the mid week Article on a personal
development/self improvement theme to your In box. Also join me
on the Facebook Fan page : http://tiny.cc/hnmdq
Until next time,
God bless and BE INSPIRED !
Oliver
http://inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Children and Divorce
It's a sad fact that nearly 50% of first marriages in countries like the US and the UK end in divorce these days with an even higher figure for second time marriages at around 60% to 80% of those ending in divorce.
It's a fair bet that if those first or indeed second marriages have lasted for just a few years there are likely to be one, two or even more children to that relationship. It can be truly said that children are the "innocent casualties" of a divorce however amicable between the parties !
What is important to realise for the adults in any divorce is that it is the children who have the most to lose in the situation if it is not handled right by either or both of the parties involved. Divorce is often a time of high emotions that if they get out of hand can damage the children to the divorce for the rest of their lives !
Children's lives are changed for ever after divorce or separation with one or both parties agreeing to go their separate ways. As a consequence some children will remain in the former matrimonial family home or maybe have to move to a new flat or house or series of different abodes in the quest for stability after the divorce process.
Children may only see their mother or father infrequently after the divorce depending on any outcome to custody or visitation or access rights. Many Dad or Mums become "weekenders" grabbing a couple of nights here or there throughout the month or in a best case sharing custody equally.
Children may live many miles from one or other of their parents and in some cases one parent will leave the country after divorce meaning that children may only see their absent parent at holiday times or not at all for long periods of time.
I am sure if you are preparing to be a divorced parent you will encounter a number of these scenarios after your divorce involving your children. I know that in many cases the "aftermath" of divorce lasts well into adulthood for many children and that is an unavoidable fact !
So faced with this daunting prospect what is the best ANY parent can do if they have reached the point where divorce is an inevitabilty and the children's needs in relation to knowing about this matter have to be taken into account !
The fact is that children do have a fundamental right to be told about an impending divorce or separation by one or both parties to the marriage and to be told in such a way that keeps them safe and honours their feelings ?
So what do the experts recommend as to the best way of doing this ? These are some guidelines :
1)If possible confer with your spouse before telling the children about divorce. This may not always be easy particularly if relations are strained but is in the children's best interests;
2)If possible both parents should be in attendance when telling the children and all children to the marriage should be told at the same time together;
3)Remain calm and avoid blame, the better able parents are able to do this the better will children hear the news and accept it;
4)Offer a generalised reason for the divorce without going into too much personal detail;
5)Tell the children what specific changes are likely to take place as a consequence of the divorce. This is likely to be short term such as where they will be living and with whom etc.
6)Where will the "absent parent" be living and when and where can the children expect to see him or her;
7) Reassure the childen that the divorce is none of their doing. Reaffirm the love that both parents have for their children collectively and individually and despite the change of circumstances the children are still loved by both parents equally;
8)Accept your children's reactions to this news. Whatever way they react either with confused or difficult emotions continue to reassure them. They need to feel that it's OK to cry or whatever;
9)Respond appropriately to their questions and answer as truthfully as you can with what you know at the time;
10)The children will need time to adjust to the news and to begin to see that the future although different can still be hopeful with both parents continuing to play a positive role in their lives.
I do hope the above will be useful to you in the challenge of explaining to your children of whatever age about your impending divorce.
I have recently discovered an innovative guidebook which helps you to put together a personal family storybook to help prepare children for divorce, This is in age related language for children from very young ages up to pre adult teens. I really think this can help enormously prepare children in the best way to face their parents' divorce. For more on this go here.
It's a fair bet that if those first or indeed second marriages have lasted for just a few years there are likely to be one, two or even more children to that relationship. It can be truly said that children are the "innocent casualties" of a divorce however amicable between the parties !
What is important to realise for the adults in any divorce is that it is the children who have the most to lose in the situation if it is not handled right by either or both of the parties involved. Divorce is often a time of high emotions that if they get out of hand can damage the children to the divorce for the rest of their lives !
Children's lives are changed for ever after divorce or separation with one or both parties agreeing to go their separate ways. As a consequence some children will remain in the former matrimonial family home or maybe have to move to a new flat or house or series of different abodes in the quest for stability after the divorce process.
Children may only see their mother or father infrequently after the divorce depending on any outcome to custody or visitation or access rights. Many Dad or Mums become "weekenders" grabbing a couple of nights here or there throughout the month or in a best case sharing custody equally.
Children may live many miles from one or other of their parents and in some cases one parent will leave the country after divorce meaning that children may only see their absent parent at holiday times or not at all for long periods of time.
I am sure if you are preparing to be a divorced parent you will encounter a number of these scenarios after your divorce involving your children. I know that in many cases the "aftermath" of divorce lasts well into adulthood for many children and that is an unavoidable fact !
So faced with this daunting prospect what is the best ANY parent can do if they have reached the point where divorce is an inevitabilty and the children's needs in relation to knowing about this matter have to be taken into account !
The fact is that children do have a fundamental right to be told about an impending divorce or separation by one or both parties to the marriage and to be told in such a way that keeps them safe and honours their feelings ?
So what do the experts recommend as to the best way of doing this ? These are some guidelines :
1)If possible confer with your spouse before telling the children about divorce. This may not always be easy particularly if relations are strained but is in the children's best interests;
2)If possible both parents should be in attendance when telling the children and all children to the marriage should be told at the same time together;
3)Remain calm and avoid blame, the better able parents are able to do this the better will children hear the news and accept it;
4)Offer a generalised reason for the divorce without going into too much personal detail;
5)Tell the children what specific changes are likely to take place as a consequence of the divorce. This is likely to be short term such as where they will be living and with whom etc.
6)Where will the "absent parent" be living and when and where can the children expect to see him or her;
7) Reassure the childen that the divorce is none of their doing. Reaffirm the love that both parents have for their children collectively and individually and despite the change of circumstances the children are still loved by both parents equally;
8)Accept your children's reactions to this news. Whatever way they react either with confused or difficult emotions continue to reassure them. They need to feel that it's OK to cry or whatever;
9)Respond appropriately to their questions and answer as truthfully as you can with what you know at the time;
10)The children will need time to adjust to the news and to begin to see that the future although different can still be hopeful with both parents continuing to play a positive role in their lives.
I do hope the above will be useful to you in the challenge of explaining to your children of whatever age about your impending divorce.
I have recently discovered an innovative guidebook which helps you to put together a personal family storybook to help prepare children for divorce, This is in age related language for children from very young ages up to pre adult teens. I really think this can help enormously prepare children in the best way to face their parents' divorce. For more on this go here.
Divorced Dad's Survival Guide
Hello again
I have written a previous article on 'Go Articles' warning of the potential for dire consequences for divorcing men called "Attention ALL Men. A Divorce Lawyer's "Insider Secrets" to Win Your Divorce."
I thought I would return to this subject in this article once again to sound a warning to ALL men that if divorce is "in the air" between you and your spouse, then you really have to get up to speed as quickly as possible if you are not to risk losing everything your children, your home and money !
I thought it may be helpful to detail some of my own personal experiences to demonstrate how a bad situation (ie divorce) can become a nightmare if you are not careful. I would particularly like to highlight the situation of divorced fathers and children and my own worst case scenario.
In 2007 my wife initiated a divorce based on our marriage having "irretrievably broken down". This "grounds for divorce" can cover a multitude of sins but certainly, in many cases, is not a mutually agreed situation, rather one party deciding that they "want out".
For many people the shock of a spouse initiating a divorce can be very profound but this quickly becomes compounded if the divorcing spouse refuses any call for reconciliation or exploring any option other than divorce.
Moving on from the shock of that, it is difficult for many people to "get their heads together" at this time, but ironically this is THE time that you need all your wits about you and particularly as a man if you are not to risk losing everything including your children, your home and your money !
In my own case, a devastating divorce process was compounded by my wife, being from South Africa, deciding that after the divorce she would like to return to her home country. I was adamantly opposed to this as my children are still young. I was then subsequently embroiled in a "do or die" process through the British courts to try and stop this happening ! Unfortunately, not having vast financial wealth at that time, meant I was reliant on a form of legally aided advice. I consulted lawyers privately and was told that it would cost many tens of thousands of pounds to have even a 50/50 chance of stopping the application. This was based on the fact that the British courts are some of the most lenient ones in the world in granting these applications. So, as you might guess, the inevitable happened and my wife was granted leave to take the children abroad having satisfied the court that she could house, educate and provide for them. Also that if she was forced to remain in the country her "distress" would impact negatively on the children. Nothing was said about the "distress"of the parent left behind !
So where am I now ? Nearly two years has gone by since my children left their "home country". Birthdays and Christmases have gone by with their father being absent. In two years there have been only two visits for a couple of weeks at a time. Thanks to Skype I have regular contact over the internet with my children but that does not substitute in any way for "being there" for my children.
So why have I written this intensely personal and difficult article ? Not for sympathy that is sure. If you are a man facing divorce today I am here to warn you this is the potential reality ! If you have children as I do the consequences of divorce may be that you don't see your children ever again, infrequently over years like me or you manage to see your kids every two weeks or once a month. There may be all kinds of ongoing custody and child maintenance processes and procedures. In the meantime your own life and capacity for longer term happiness can be compromised.
Please listen to my voice of experience in these matters, this is serious. If you are a man today with children and you are facing divorce "forewarned is forearmed". You need to "get with the programme as quickly as possible or risk losing everything ! In these circumstances I am going to recommend a highly regarded resource, it is called "The Divorced Dad's Survival Guide". The best of luck ! For more on this click here.
I have written a previous article on 'Go Articles' warning of the potential for dire consequences for divorcing men called "Attention ALL Men. A Divorce Lawyer's "Insider Secrets" to Win Your Divorce."
I thought I would return to this subject in this article once again to sound a warning to ALL men that if divorce is "in the air" between you and your spouse, then you really have to get up to speed as quickly as possible if you are not to risk losing everything your children, your home and money !
I thought it may be helpful to detail some of my own personal experiences to demonstrate how a bad situation (ie divorce) can become a nightmare if you are not careful. I would particularly like to highlight the situation of divorced fathers and children and my own worst case scenario.
In 2007 my wife initiated a divorce based on our marriage having "irretrievably broken down". This "grounds for divorce" can cover a multitude of sins but certainly, in many cases, is not a mutually agreed situation, rather one party deciding that they "want out".
For many people the shock of a spouse initiating a divorce can be very profound but this quickly becomes compounded if the divorcing spouse refuses any call for reconciliation or exploring any option other than divorce.
Moving on from the shock of that, it is difficult for many people to "get their heads together" at this time, but ironically this is THE time that you need all your wits about you and particularly as a man if you are not to risk losing everything including your children, your home and your money !
In my own case, a devastating divorce process was compounded by my wife, being from South Africa, deciding that after the divorce she would like to return to her home country. I was adamantly opposed to this as my children are still young. I was then subsequently embroiled in a "do or die" process through the British courts to try and stop this happening ! Unfortunately, not having vast financial wealth at that time, meant I was reliant on a form of legally aided advice. I consulted lawyers privately and was told that it would cost many tens of thousands of pounds to have even a 50/50 chance of stopping the application. This was based on the fact that the British courts are some of the most lenient ones in the world in granting these applications. So, as you might guess, the inevitable happened and my wife was granted leave to take the children abroad having satisfied the court that she could house, educate and provide for them. Also that if she was forced to remain in the country her "distress" would impact negatively on the children. Nothing was said about the "distress"of the parent left behind !
So where am I now ? Nearly two years has gone by since my children left their "home country". Birthdays and Christmases have gone by with their father being absent. In two years there have been only two visits for a couple of weeks at a time. Thanks to Skype I have regular contact over the internet with my children but that does not substitute in any way for "being there" for my children.
So why have I written this intensely personal and difficult article ? Not for sympathy that is sure. If you are a man facing divorce today I am here to warn you this is the potential reality ! If you have children as I do the consequences of divorce may be that you don't see your children ever again, infrequently over years like me or you manage to see your kids every two weeks or once a month. There may be all kinds of ongoing custody and child maintenance processes and procedures. In the meantime your own life and capacity for longer term happiness can be compromised.
Please listen to my voice of experience in these matters, this is serious. If you are a man today with children and you are facing divorce "forewarned is forearmed". You need to "get with the programme as quickly as possible or risk losing everything ! In these circumstances I am going to recommend a highly regarded resource, it is called "The Divorced Dad's Survival Guide". The best of luck ! For more on this click here.
How to Overcome Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)is a condition that can have profound effects on its sufferers. Maybe you know someone who suffers with OCD, a family member or friend, a child or have picked up
information from other sources,TV, magazine articles or books etc.
Whatever the source of your knowledge or information it should be obvious that this condition with its rituals and "odd" behaviours is one that causes individuals and their families much stress and anxiety !
So what exactly is OCD ? One definition goes as follows : "Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a mental disorder characterized by intrusive thoughts that produce anxiety, by repetitive behaviors aimed at reducing anxiety, or by combinations of such thoughts obsessions) and behaviors (compulsions). ... "
Further it goes on to say :"people with obsessive compulsive disorder are troubled by intrusive thoughts, images, impulses or doubts. Usually these are also accompanied by compulsions where the person has to either do or think something to make themselves feel better or to prevent bad things from happening."
The obsessive thoughts experienced by the sufferer of OCD lead to compulsive actions, such as cleaning, checking, counting, or hoarding. The person becomes trapped in a pattern of repetitive thoughts and behaviors that are senseless and distressing but very hard to stop.
Most people with obsessive-compulsive disorder fall into one of the following categories:
1)Washers are afraid of contamination. They usually have cleaning or hand-washing compulsions.
2)Checkers repeatedly check things (oven turned off, door locked, etc.) that they associate with harm or danger.
3)Doubters and sinners are afraid that if everything isn't perfect or done just right something terrible will happen or they will be punished.
4)Counters and arrangers are obsessed with order and symmetry. They may have superstitions about certain numbers, colors, or arrangements.
5)Hoarders fear that something bad will happen if they throw anything away. They compulsively hoard things that they don't need or use.
As you might imagine from all these categories OCD is a very limiting condition.With obsessive-compulsive disorder, these thoughts and behaviours cause tremendous distress, take up a lot of time, and interfere with the sufferer's daily routine, job, or relationships.
There are a range of therapies and treatments available to those suffering from OCD from medication, to "talking" and group therapies to alternative therapies such as homeopathy or acupincture. However these are not effective for all people all of the time and often do not get to the "root cauuse" of the condition.
For me it is always important to listen to people who have the "voice of experience" to offer, that is to say someone who has suffered with a condition and has gone on to overcome it. Just such a man is someone who has written a book to detail his story of twenty five years of OCD from childhood until his own ten year long research produced a cure.
This story is especially worth looking at if you have a child suffering with OCD or are an adult whose personal and professional life is being disrupted by the effects of OCD. If you would like to investigate a cure for your or a loved one's OCD today please take a look at The Root Cause.
information from other sources,TV, magazine articles or books etc.
Whatever the source of your knowledge or information it should be obvious that this condition with its rituals and "odd" behaviours is one that causes individuals and their families much stress and anxiety !
So what exactly is OCD ? One definition goes as follows : "Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a mental disorder characterized by intrusive thoughts that produce anxiety, by repetitive behaviors aimed at reducing anxiety, or by combinations of such thoughts obsessions) and behaviors (compulsions). ... "
Further it goes on to say :"people with obsessive compulsive disorder are troubled by intrusive thoughts, images, impulses or doubts. Usually these are also accompanied by compulsions where the person has to either do or think something to make themselves feel better or to prevent bad things from happening."
The obsessive thoughts experienced by the sufferer of OCD lead to compulsive actions, such as cleaning, checking, counting, or hoarding. The person becomes trapped in a pattern of repetitive thoughts and behaviors that are senseless and distressing but very hard to stop.
Most people with obsessive-compulsive disorder fall into one of the following categories:
1)Washers are afraid of contamination. They usually have cleaning or hand-washing compulsions.
2)Checkers repeatedly check things (oven turned off, door locked, etc.) that they associate with harm or danger.
3)Doubters and sinners are afraid that if everything isn't perfect or done just right something terrible will happen or they will be punished.
4)Counters and arrangers are obsessed with order and symmetry. They may have superstitions about certain numbers, colors, or arrangements.
5)Hoarders fear that something bad will happen if they throw anything away. They compulsively hoard things that they don't need or use.
As you might imagine from all these categories OCD is a very limiting condition.With obsessive-compulsive disorder, these thoughts and behaviours cause tremendous distress, take up a lot of time, and interfere with the sufferer's daily routine, job, or relationships.
There are a range of therapies and treatments available to those suffering from OCD from medication, to "talking" and group therapies to alternative therapies such as homeopathy or acupincture. However these are not effective for all people all of the time and often do not get to the "root cauuse" of the condition.
For me it is always important to listen to people who have the "voice of experience" to offer, that is to say someone who has suffered with a condition and has gone on to overcome it. Just such a man is someone who has written a book to detail his story of twenty five years of OCD from childhood until his own ten year long research produced a cure.
This story is especially worth looking at if you have a child suffering with OCD or are an adult whose personal and professional life is being disrupted by the effects of OCD. If you would like to investigate a cure for your or a loved one's OCD today please take a look at The Root Cause.
Unstoppable Confidence
Hello again
May I ask you a question today please ? Do you have 'Unstoppable Confidence' in Yourself ? Yes/No/Maybe ? Interesting question isn't it and it may well throw up some interesting answers. After all we all think we know what "confidence" is and whether we have it or not but......unstoppable confidence now there's a different thing altogether !?
Let's backtrack for a moment and ask ourselves "what is confidence" ? A dictionary definition says as follows : an "assurance: freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities". Literally therefore confidence is having a self belief and inner knowing that one has all one needs to perform in life to the best of one's capabilities.
Now we all know people in life who lack confidence, maybe their self esteem was damaged in their childhood and they struggle to believe anything good about themselves. Perhaps their families or a teacher told them that they " would never amount to much" or that the dreams they had a children were the sort of stuff that didn't happen to people like them or from their background.
The fact is that "self confidence" is the bedrock of ALL success in life whether in relationships, in jobs or careers or in business. Without confidence in yourself and your abilities life is going to be a struggle.
So the question is no matter what your background how do you become confident in yourself and, even better, if you are already confident how do you develop unstoppable confidence in yourself ?
Just imagine some of the benefits of developing unstoppable confidence in yourself :
1)Mentally - Have the ability to challenge yourself by stating your opinion without being afraid to be wrong;this also includes thinking for yourself and having confidence in your beliefs despite opposition;
2)Physically - This leads to an healthier lifestyle because you believe it's possible for yourself;this confidence can also be applied to addictions such as smoking or overeating;
3)Spiritually - develop a greater belief in your "deservedness" and have greater faith in yourself, others and in the divine having a purpose for you;
4)Interpersonally - develop leadership skills and other "interpersonal skills" such
as persuasion, communication, influencing and the ability to "sell" yourself;
5)Financially/career - follow your financial goals and career/ business dreams because you are "worth it" and know the value you have to offer the world;
6)Emotionally - become a problem solver and learn how to express your emotions and gratitude at a deeper level;
7)Hobbies/recreation - learn how to speak without fear in public and to take up new pursuits without having to excel from the outset.
As you can imagine from the list above having that unstoppable confidence would lead to an amazing sense of fulfillment and belief that any or all goals are achievable.
Many people have to embark on a journey maybe from shyness and lack of self esteem to increasing self confidence to a further breakthrough to unstoppable confidence . It is a question of having small successes leading to bigger ones and then even bigger dreams and goals.
The fact is however that people often cannot develop confidence in and of themselves without help. Developing confidence is a process like any other but most people suffering with a confidence issue need to learn some techniques particularly if they suffer from shyness or social phobia or some other issue with self esteem.
With this in mind I would like to recommend an invaluable resource written by a person who had to overcome extreme shyness to becoming super confident in his own life.
Having studied the issue of confidence and unstoppable confidence for many years and applied many techniques to himself he is in an "expert" postion to help others move forward to help them achieve all their dreams and goals. If you are looking today to eradicate lack of confidence in your life or of someone you know then please take a look at this. Click here.
May I ask you a question today please ? Do you have 'Unstoppable Confidence' in Yourself ? Yes/No/Maybe ? Interesting question isn't it and it may well throw up some interesting answers. After all we all think we know what "confidence" is and whether we have it or not but......unstoppable confidence now there's a different thing altogether !?
Let's backtrack for a moment and ask ourselves "what is confidence" ? A dictionary definition says as follows : an "assurance: freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities". Literally therefore confidence is having a self belief and inner knowing that one has all one needs to perform in life to the best of one's capabilities.
Now we all know people in life who lack confidence, maybe their self esteem was damaged in their childhood and they struggle to believe anything good about themselves. Perhaps their families or a teacher told them that they " would never amount to much" or that the dreams they had a children were the sort of stuff that didn't happen to people like them or from their background.
The fact is that "self confidence" is the bedrock of ALL success in life whether in relationships, in jobs or careers or in business. Without confidence in yourself and your abilities life is going to be a struggle.
So the question is no matter what your background how do you become confident in yourself and, even better, if you are already confident how do you develop unstoppable confidence in yourself ?
Just imagine some of the benefits of developing unstoppable confidence in yourself :
1)Mentally - Have the ability to challenge yourself by stating your opinion without being afraid to be wrong;this also includes thinking for yourself and having confidence in your beliefs despite opposition;
2)Physically - This leads to an healthier lifestyle because you believe it's possible for yourself;this confidence can also be applied to addictions such as smoking or overeating;
3)Spiritually - develop a greater belief in your "deservedness" and have greater faith in yourself, others and in the divine having a purpose for you;
4)Interpersonally - develop leadership skills and other "interpersonal skills" such
as persuasion, communication, influencing and the ability to "sell" yourself;
5)Financially/career - follow your financial goals and career/ business dreams because you are "worth it" and know the value you have to offer the world;
6)Emotionally - become a problem solver and learn how to express your emotions and gratitude at a deeper level;
7)Hobbies/recreation - learn how to speak without fear in public and to take up new pursuits without having to excel from the outset.
As you can imagine from the list above having that unstoppable confidence would lead to an amazing sense of fulfillment and belief that any or all goals are achievable.
Many people have to embark on a journey maybe from shyness and lack of self esteem to increasing self confidence to a further breakthrough to unstoppable confidence . It is a question of having small successes leading to bigger ones and then even bigger dreams and goals.
The fact is however that people often cannot develop confidence in and of themselves without help. Developing confidence is a process like any other but most people suffering with a confidence issue need to learn some techniques particularly if they suffer from shyness or social phobia or some other issue with self esteem.
With this in mind I would like to recommend an invaluable resource written by a person who had to overcome extreme shyness to becoming super confident in his own life.
Having studied the issue of confidence and unstoppable confidence for many years and applied many techniques to himself he is in an "expert" postion to help others move forward to help them achieve all their dreams and goals. If you are looking today to eradicate lack of confidence in your life or of someone you know then please take a look at this. Click here.
Treatment for Depression
It is estimated that one in four people will experience depression at some point in their lives. That's quite a high figure I am sure you will agree and there are probably many more people who never get diagnosed ? So what is the impact of depression on people's lives ?
Well it causes tremendous emotional pain; it disrupts the lives of millions of people; it adversely affects the lives of families and friends; it reduces work productivity and leads to absenteeism and it has a significant negative impact on the economy.
Depression is an horrible illness I should know. I suffered depression for several years in my early adult life ostensibly brought on a by a serous car accident. This is knowm in the psychiatric profession I think as "reactive depression". At the time the main treatment offered for my depression was anti depressants and that is probably the common experience of the majority of those people experiencing depression.
Unfortunately as anybody knows drugs such as anti depressants have side effects which can be unpleasant in and of themselves. In reality the anti depressants often only give the depression suffererer light relief and merely suppress the symptoms of the illness not dealing with the root cause.
So what are the main causes of depression and other treatment/s for depression available. To summarise the causes of depression these include but are not limited to :
1)Abuse. Past physical, sexual, or emotional abuse can cause depression later in life;
2)Certain medications. For example, some drugs used to treat high blood pressure, such as beta-blockers or reserpine, can increase your risk of depression;
3)Conflict. Depression may result from personal conflicts or disputes with family members or friends;
4)Death or a loss. Sadness or grief from the death or loss of a loved one, though natural, can also increase the risk of depression;
5)Genetics. A family history of depression may increase the risk. It's thought that depression is passed genetically from one generation to the next;
5)Major events. Even good events such as starting a new job, graduating, or getting married can lead to depression. So can moving, losing a job or income, getting divorced, or retiring;
6)Other personal problems. Problems such as social isolation due to other mental illnesses or being cast out of a family or social group can lead to depression;
7)Serious illnesses. Sometimes depression co-exists with a major illness or is a reaction to the illness;
8)Substance abuse. Nearly 30% of people with substance abuse problems also have major or clinical depression.
Those then are some of the major causes of depression what then about treatment/s for depression ? These fall mainly into two categories :
a)Medications. A number of antidepressant medications are available to treat depression. There are several different types of antidepressants. Antidepressants are generally categorized by how they affect the naturally occurring chemicals in a person's brain to change their mood.
b)Psychotherapy is a general term for a way of treating depression by talking about your condition and related issues with a mental health provider. Psychotherapy is also known as therapy, talk therapy, counseling or psychosocial therapy.
I think you will agree from all of the above both the effects, causes and treatments for clinical depression mean that it is a serious disease with serious consequences.
Most people, and I include myself in that, would agree that if they could find an alternative method of treatment not including medication or "pscho babble" for depression that would merit serious consideration. I believe I have uncovered such a treatment.
It has been pioneered by a man who himself suffered from depression for eight years. If you or a loved one are suffering from depression today I urge you to take an "open minded" look at this. If you want to get rid of the pills with their lousy side effects or make your "shrink" redundant this could be your time ! Please take a look here.
Well it causes tremendous emotional pain; it disrupts the lives of millions of people; it adversely affects the lives of families and friends; it reduces work productivity and leads to absenteeism and it has a significant negative impact on the economy.
Depression is an horrible illness I should know. I suffered depression for several years in my early adult life ostensibly brought on a by a serous car accident. This is knowm in the psychiatric profession I think as "reactive depression". At the time the main treatment offered for my depression was anti depressants and that is probably the common experience of the majority of those people experiencing depression.
Unfortunately as anybody knows drugs such as anti depressants have side effects which can be unpleasant in and of themselves. In reality the anti depressants often only give the depression suffererer light relief and merely suppress the symptoms of the illness not dealing with the root cause.
So what are the main causes of depression and other treatment/s for depression available. To summarise the causes of depression these include but are not limited to :
1)Abuse. Past physical, sexual, or emotional abuse can cause depression later in life;
2)Certain medications. For example, some drugs used to treat high blood pressure, such as beta-blockers or reserpine, can increase your risk of depression;
3)Conflict. Depression may result from personal conflicts or disputes with family members or friends;
4)Death or a loss. Sadness or grief from the death or loss of a loved one, though natural, can also increase the risk of depression;
5)Genetics. A family history of depression may increase the risk. It's thought that depression is passed genetically from one generation to the next;
5)Major events. Even good events such as starting a new job, graduating, or getting married can lead to depression. So can moving, losing a job or income, getting divorced, or retiring;
6)Other personal problems. Problems such as social isolation due to other mental illnesses or being cast out of a family or social group can lead to depression;
7)Serious illnesses. Sometimes depression co-exists with a major illness or is a reaction to the illness;
8)Substance abuse. Nearly 30% of people with substance abuse problems also have major or clinical depression.
Those then are some of the major causes of depression what then about treatment/s for depression ? These fall mainly into two categories :
a)Medications. A number of antidepressant medications are available to treat depression. There are several different types of antidepressants. Antidepressants are generally categorized by how they affect the naturally occurring chemicals in a person's brain to change their mood.
b)Psychotherapy is a general term for a way of treating depression by talking about your condition and related issues with a mental health provider. Psychotherapy is also known as therapy, talk therapy, counseling or psychosocial therapy.
I think you will agree from all of the above both the effects, causes and treatments for clinical depression mean that it is a serious disease with serious consequences.
Most people, and I include myself in that, would agree that if they could find an alternative method of treatment not including medication or "pscho babble" for depression that would merit serious consideration. I believe I have uncovered such a treatment.
It has been pioneered by a man who himself suffered from depression for eight years. If you or a loved one are suffering from depression today I urge you to take an "open minded" look at this. If you want to get rid of the pills with their lousy side effects or make your "shrink" redundant this could be your time ! Please take a look here.
Making Friend Made Easy
Hello again
There's a very famous self help book called 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie published I believe in the 1930s.
However the problem of "winning friends" is not an issue of the last century but one that affects every generation. In today's fast paced world, people often don't even have time to make real friendships often relying instead on "cyber friendships" such as those on social media like Facebook and Twitter.
But with a vastly more disparate society and a growing population of singletons through divorce and longer life span it's perhaps more important than ever that people go back to the time honoured methods of "winning friends".
I mean without friends then one risks loneliness, isolation and feelings of rejection which can lead to more serious problems such as depression, so it is worth investing time in understanding both how to make and keep friends.
So if you are having trouble making friends or indeed keeping the ones you have what are some things you can do ? After all we all have to realise that in order to make friends the onus is on us to be proactive and put ourselves "out there." Now if you are shy or in some way mildly socially phobic this will be more difficult than for someone who is a self confident extrovert. But you have to ask yourself the question what are the alternatives ? Making friends is every bit as needed as having a job or career for one'e emotional and psychological health so it is worth overcoming one's fears to put oneself about.
Here are some good "common sense" suggestions as to making friends :
1)You may have a hobby or other interest such as sport or a religious faith that would be an obvious way of getting involved and making friends. Join your local church/mosque/temple or photography club or whatever interest you have. You will know at once that you have a common interest with its members so having something to talk about won't be a problem. One of the hardest parts of forming friendships is that initial small talk with another person. If you know from the start that you have something in common then it's a natural "opener".
2)Related to point number one is volunteering your time to a charity or other agency. This is particularly good if you don't have a lot of hobbies ?It may only be an hour a week but once again having an interest such as charitable work with the elderly or animal rescue will bring you into contact with like minded people and the potential for new friendships.
3)You have to realise that you will not make friends without "talking to people". Now this may be self evident but how often have we seen people attending social situations who hold themselves back and do not initiate conversation and then wonder why no body talked to them. Communication and indeed conversation is a two way process and we all have to take responsibility for initiating that if we are in a group situation. If it is your intention to make new friends you just have to 'bite the bullet' and learn how to initiate conversations. Take an interest in the other person and they will take an interest in you.
4)Learn how to make "small talk", inconsequential dialogue about nothing in particular that may lead to something more meaningful later down the line. You can practice this in your post office queue, or when you are lining up in the office canteen for lunch, just learn how to talk to the person next to you in the queue about what's in the news that day or whatever ?
5)Be aware of your physical presence and be sure to smile at the other person and make eye contact when initiating the friendship ritual. People are more likely to want to be friends if you make them feel comfortable but often due to shyness or nervousness then people forget this when starting out in the game of friendship.
6)There is a great deal of information available about "rapport building" these days. Essentially this means that you can learn to "mirror and match" another person in terms of their body language and physicality including facial expressions, tone of voice, words used etc. This is a wonderful tool for building empathy with another person and creating instant mutual respect and harmony.
There are many other things you can do to encourage friendship with another person but it is the initial "vibes" that will decide if a friendship will develop from perhaps a chance encounter. And remember that all great relationships start off the way they intend to carry on so it is worth investing time and effort in the initial friendship encounter.
If you would like some great practical steps for developing friendship in the twenty first century in the quickest possible time I highly recommend the following and good luck ! Click here.
There's a very famous self help book called 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie published I believe in the 1930s.
However the problem of "winning friends" is not an issue of the last century but one that affects every generation. In today's fast paced world, people often don't even have time to make real friendships often relying instead on "cyber friendships" such as those on social media like Facebook and Twitter.
But with a vastly more disparate society and a growing population of singletons through divorce and longer life span it's perhaps more important than ever that people go back to the time honoured methods of "winning friends".
I mean without friends then one risks loneliness, isolation and feelings of rejection which can lead to more serious problems such as depression, so it is worth investing time in understanding both how to make and keep friends.
So if you are having trouble making friends or indeed keeping the ones you have what are some things you can do ? After all we all have to realise that in order to make friends the onus is on us to be proactive and put ourselves "out there." Now if you are shy or in some way mildly socially phobic this will be more difficult than for someone who is a self confident extrovert. But you have to ask yourself the question what are the alternatives ? Making friends is every bit as needed as having a job or career for one'e emotional and psychological health so it is worth overcoming one's fears to put oneself about.
Here are some good "common sense" suggestions as to making friends :
1)You may have a hobby or other interest such as sport or a religious faith that would be an obvious way of getting involved and making friends. Join your local church/mosque/temple or photography club or whatever interest you have. You will know at once that you have a common interest with its members so having something to talk about won't be a problem. One of the hardest parts of forming friendships is that initial small talk with another person. If you know from the start that you have something in common then it's a natural "opener".
2)Related to point number one is volunteering your time to a charity or other agency. This is particularly good if you don't have a lot of hobbies ?It may only be an hour a week but once again having an interest such as charitable work with the elderly or animal rescue will bring you into contact with like minded people and the potential for new friendships.
3)You have to realise that you will not make friends without "talking to people". Now this may be self evident but how often have we seen people attending social situations who hold themselves back and do not initiate conversation and then wonder why no body talked to them. Communication and indeed conversation is a two way process and we all have to take responsibility for initiating that if we are in a group situation. If it is your intention to make new friends you just have to 'bite the bullet' and learn how to initiate conversations. Take an interest in the other person and they will take an interest in you.
4)Learn how to make "small talk", inconsequential dialogue about nothing in particular that may lead to something more meaningful later down the line. You can practice this in your post office queue, or when you are lining up in the office canteen for lunch, just learn how to talk to the person next to you in the queue about what's in the news that day or whatever ?
5)Be aware of your physical presence and be sure to smile at the other person and make eye contact when initiating the friendship ritual. People are more likely to want to be friends if you make them feel comfortable but often due to shyness or nervousness then people forget this when starting out in the game of friendship.
6)There is a great deal of information available about "rapport building" these days. Essentially this means that you can learn to "mirror and match" another person in terms of their body language and physicality including facial expressions, tone of voice, words used etc. This is a wonderful tool for building empathy with another person and creating instant mutual respect and harmony.
There are many other things you can do to encourage friendship with another person but it is the initial "vibes" that will decide if a friendship will develop from perhaps a chance encounter. And remember that all great relationships start off the way they intend to carry on so it is worth investing time and effort in the initial friendship encounter.
If you would like some great practical steps for developing friendship in the twenty first century in the quickest possible time I highly recommend the following and good luck ! Click here.
Monday 16 August 2010
Inspired Living Daily - Newsletter 13/8/10. Can you "Sell" Yourself
INSPIRED LIVING DAILY
13 August 2010
In this Issue :
1)Inspirational Quote of the Week;
2)Top Motivation Tips;
3)How to Really "Sell" Yourself;
4)The Law of Attraction Fact or Fantasy ?
5)The poem from the film "Invictus" (Unconquered)
A very Warm Welcome to Everyone once again
If you are new to my Newsletter this week, I really hope you enjoy it
and gain some positive INSPIRATION from it to help YOUR daily life,
indeed to live an "inspired life" at all times ! As ever, I want to
hear from you on any subject at all and particularly if you have
implemented anything you read about here. My email address is
Oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
This week on my Facebook Fan Page (http://tiny.cc/hnmdq, please join
me there !) I have been highlighting some of the great inspirational
speakers in history. People like Sir Winston Churchill, John F Kennedy,
Nelson Mandela and more recently Barak Obama. They all have or had
an amazing ability to connect with the "hearts and minds" of their
audiences and stir them to action !
If you received my mid week article this week you will understand the
importance of public speaking and how mastering a "skill" like that
can have hidden benefits in all areas of your life. You never know
you might go on to become the "next Barak Obama" who rose from a
lowly senator to the highest public office in the world in just four
years largely as a result of his great oratory ! Now that is
inspirational !
Related to the skill of public speaking is the ability to "sell
yourself". More on that later in this Newsletter !
___________________________________________________________________
Inspirational Quote of the WEEK
____________________________________________________________________
"The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his
opportunity when it comes."
Benjamin Disraeli
____________________________________________________________________
Top Motivation Tips
____________________________________________________________________
So can I ask how "motivated" are you in life at the moment ? A lot,
motivated in some areas and not others, not at all motivated by very
much at all ?! You know that when things are going well in life you
are feeling highly motivated but, at other times, things just become
a chore !
So what are some things that we can do to improve our motivation in
life ? Well one thing you can do is something I just did (did you
notice ?), I asked you a Question ! You can regularly ask yourself
on a daily basis questions such as, "What am I happy about in my life
right now ?" or "What am I excited about in my life right now ?"
Now depending on your answer to these questions you will be able to
gauge your general level of emotional well being and as to a sense
of whether you need to do something to boost your motivation ?
If you are struggling to get started with something or you are
procrastinating on a project you need to identify "reasons" as to why
completing that task will improve the quality of life for you or
people about you and as to how you will reward yourself once it's done.
Let's say your garage space (if you have one ?) is cluttered with
old junk and you are not able to store any new stuff ? Maybe you have
just bought a new car or motorbike and would really love to keep it
looking its best by parking it in the garage. Having a clear garage
will enable you to house your "prized possession" and give you a
sense of satisfaction for a job well done !
In motivational terms, we are always looking at the "benefits" of
completing an action or task (or at least getting started) against
the "cost" of putting it off. Delayed gratification (in layman's
terms means putting something off !) in life often leads to more
frustration which leads to even less motivation to change or improve
a situation, it a vicious circle !
There are many other motivational tips and techniques for getting
started where motivation is lacking. For 25 Simple Ways to Motivate
Yourself please go here :
http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2007/06/13/25-simple-ways-to
-motivate-yourself/
___________________________________________________________________
How to REALLY Sell Yourself ?
____________________________________________________________________
Now many people recoil when they hear the word "sales" or "selling
onself" ! Now why is that I wonder ?
Well the obvious answer is that people associate the word "sales" or
"selling" with some people we may like to avoid such as estate agents
or double glazing sales people (apologies to any people from those
professions here !) but you know the point ! Nobody likes being
"sold to" or "manipulated" into buying anything.
But,and it is a big BUT,just like anything in the self improvement/
personal development world we have to accept the fact that at some
level we are all "sales people." We need to become comfortable with
that and accept the responsibilty that comes with that to develop
our "personal sales skills". This could be in a formal context such
as a job interview or even in a family envoronment where we may be
wanting to convince our children (if we have any ?) that certain
behaviours are not good for them e.g "under age" drinking. It is our
capacity to "sell" or in another way persuade, convince or influence
that is important here.
If you are struggling today with the idea and reality of needing to
sell yourself an article in PickTheBrain.com says this about one's
self worth.It suggests the following:
"Live in such a way that you would want to be friends with yourself.
Find some time to reflect on what you like about yourself. If this
seems hard, start with the smallest of attributes.Don't do anything
that will give you cause to feel ashamed later."
The article goes on to say that the key to selling oneself is "to be
sold on yourself" meaning that unless and until you are comfortable
and confident in your own skin you will not be able to sell yourself
to others. This is the fundamental TRUTH to selling yourself
succesfully and that is to have an awareness of your own "self worth."
For more on how to really sell yourself in life go here :
http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/how-to-sell-yourself/
___________________________________________________________________
Law of Attraction Fact or Fantasy ?
____________________________________________________________________
You have no doubt heard about The Law of Attraction ('LoA') these days ?
If you have been around the self help industry in recent years you
will know that the LoA has become mainstream as popularised by
the hit film "The Secret". This introduced people to concepts such
as "thoughts become things" and "become what you think most about".
In many ways it has opened people's eyes to a whole new world of
possibilities in life that they never knew existed before !?
People are " manifesting" this or "deliberately creating" that in
their lives all the time now.
I certainly believe that LoA has many attractive things to offer
with its positive messages and also by warning us of "problems"
in our thought lives ? For example by focusing on things that we
"don't want" in our lives such as poverty or lack we are unconsciously
creating more of the lack we are complaining of. It's a vicious circle
we need to break if we are to get all our "wants" met.
Now it has to be said that people aren't always able to attract what
they want into their lives by the LoA. It is often not understood
that many people have buried in their subconscious minds "limiting
beliefs" that the conscious mind can't dislodge, even by repeating
positive affirnmations to our conscious minds. For this they need
to try other methods such as "subliminal messaging" or other
techniques such as Emotional Freedom Technique to dislodge the negative
unconscious belief.
So if you have used the LoA in your life I would really like to
hear from you as to the results you have been seeing ? I do believe
that LoA is a fact and has powerful spiritual truths in it so it is
worth persevering with !
If you would like to know more about continuing on with the Law of
Attraction go here :http://www.lawofabundantattraction.com/
____________________________________________________________________
Poem from the film "Invictus"
____________________________________________________________________
The film "Invictus" portrayed the relationship between Nelson Mandela
and the South African World Cup Winning Captain Francois Pienaar
in their World Cup triumph of 1995.
The poem "Invictus" was the central inspirational gift from Mandela to
Pienaar before the Final.
The final verse reads :
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
For the rest of the poem go here : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Invictus
____________________________________________________________________
In the next Edition of 'Inspired Living Daily' I will be scouring the
internet on your behalf to bring you the latest in the world of self
improvement and personal development/success techniques, strategies
and tips. Your ideas, suggestions and feedback are most welcome to :
Oliver@inspiredlivingdily.co.uk
If you have enjoyed today's edition please "spread the word" to friends
and family. They can either sign up at my website @
http://inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk or at my Facebook Fan page :
http://tiny.cc/hnmdq.
Look out for Tuesday's regular Inspirational Article to your in box !
Until next time
BE INSPIRED and God Bless !
Oliver
www.inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
13 August 2010
In this Issue :
1)Inspirational Quote of the Week;
2)Top Motivation Tips;
3)How to Really "Sell" Yourself;
4)The Law of Attraction Fact or Fantasy ?
5)The poem from the film "Invictus" (Unconquered)
A very Warm Welcome to Everyone once again
If you are new to my Newsletter this week, I really hope you enjoy it
and gain some positive INSPIRATION from it to help YOUR daily life,
indeed to live an "inspired life" at all times ! As ever, I want to
hear from you on any subject at all and particularly if you have
implemented anything you read about here. My email address is
Oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
This week on my Facebook Fan Page (http://tiny.cc/hnmdq, please join
me there !) I have been highlighting some of the great inspirational
speakers in history. People like Sir Winston Churchill, John F Kennedy,
Nelson Mandela and more recently Barak Obama. They all have or had
an amazing ability to connect with the "hearts and minds" of their
audiences and stir them to action !
If you received my mid week article this week you will understand the
importance of public speaking and how mastering a "skill" like that
can have hidden benefits in all areas of your life. You never know
you might go on to become the "next Barak Obama" who rose from a
lowly senator to the highest public office in the world in just four
years largely as a result of his great oratory ! Now that is
inspirational !
Related to the skill of public speaking is the ability to "sell
yourself". More on that later in this Newsletter !
___________________________________________________________________
Inspirational Quote of the WEEK
____________________________________________________________________
"The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his
opportunity when it comes."
Benjamin Disraeli
____________________________________________________________________
Top Motivation Tips
____________________________________________________________________
So can I ask how "motivated" are you in life at the moment ? A lot,
motivated in some areas and not others, not at all motivated by very
much at all ?! You know that when things are going well in life you
are feeling highly motivated but, at other times, things just become
a chore !
So what are some things that we can do to improve our motivation in
life ? Well one thing you can do is something I just did (did you
notice ?), I asked you a Question ! You can regularly ask yourself
on a daily basis questions such as, "What am I happy about in my life
right now ?" or "What am I excited about in my life right now ?"
Now depending on your answer to these questions you will be able to
gauge your general level of emotional well being and as to a sense
of whether you need to do something to boost your motivation ?
If you are struggling to get started with something or you are
procrastinating on a project you need to identify "reasons" as to why
completing that task will improve the quality of life for you or
people about you and as to how you will reward yourself once it's done.
Let's say your garage space (if you have one ?) is cluttered with
old junk and you are not able to store any new stuff ? Maybe you have
just bought a new car or motorbike and would really love to keep it
looking its best by parking it in the garage. Having a clear garage
will enable you to house your "prized possession" and give you a
sense of satisfaction for a job well done !
In motivational terms, we are always looking at the "benefits" of
completing an action or task (or at least getting started) against
the "cost" of putting it off. Delayed gratification (in layman's
terms means putting something off !) in life often leads to more
frustration which leads to even less motivation to change or improve
a situation, it a vicious circle !
There are many other motivational tips and techniques for getting
started where motivation is lacking. For 25 Simple Ways to Motivate
Yourself please go here :
http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2007/06/13/25-simple-ways-to
-motivate-yourself/
___________________________________________________________________
How to REALLY Sell Yourself ?
____________________________________________________________________
Now many people recoil when they hear the word "sales" or "selling
onself" ! Now why is that I wonder ?
Well the obvious answer is that people associate the word "sales" or
"selling" with some people we may like to avoid such as estate agents
or double glazing sales people (apologies to any people from those
professions here !) but you know the point ! Nobody likes being
"sold to" or "manipulated" into buying anything.
But,and it is a big BUT,just like anything in the self improvement/
personal development world we have to accept the fact that at some
level we are all "sales people." We need to become comfortable with
that and accept the responsibilty that comes with that to develop
our "personal sales skills". This could be in a formal context such
as a job interview or even in a family envoronment where we may be
wanting to convince our children (if we have any ?) that certain
behaviours are not good for them e.g "under age" drinking. It is our
capacity to "sell" or in another way persuade, convince or influence
that is important here.
If you are struggling today with the idea and reality of needing to
sell yourself an article in PickTheBrain.com says this about one's
self worth.It suggests the following:
"Live in such a way that you would want to be friends with yourself.
Find some time to reflect on what you like about yourself. If this
seems hard, start with the smallest of attributes.Don't do anything
that will give you cause to feel ashamed later."
The article goes on to say that the key to selling oneself is "to be
sold on yourself" meaning that unless and until you are comfortable
and confident in your own skin you will not be able to sell yourself
to others. This is the fundamental TRUTH to selling yourself
succesfully and that is to have an awareness of your own "self worth."
For more on how to really sell yourself in life go here :
http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/how-to-sell-yourself/
___________________________________________________________________
Law of Attraction Fact or Fantasy ?
____________________________________________________________________
You have no doubt heard about The Law of Attraction ('LoA') these days ?
If you have been around the self help industry in recent years you
will know that the LoA has become mainstream as popularised by
the hit film "The Secret". This introduced people to concepts such
as "thoughts become things" and "become what you think most about".
In many ways it has opened people's eyes to a whole new world of
possibilities in life that they never knew existed before !?
People are " manifesting" this or "deliberately creating" that in
their lives all the time now.
I certainly believe that LoA has many attractive things to offer
with its positive messages and also by warning us of "problems"
in our thought lives ? For example by focusing on things that we
"don't want" in our lives such as poverty or lack we are unconsciously
creating more of the lack we are complaining of. It's a vicious circle
we need to break if we are to get all our "wants" met.
Now it has to be said that people aren't always able to attract what
they want into their lives by the LoA. It is often not understood
that many people have buried in their subconscious minds "limiting
beliefs" that the conscious mind can't dislodge, even by repeating
positive affirnmations to our conscious minds. For this they need
to try other methods such as "subliminal messaging" or other
techniques such as Emotional Freedom Technique to dislodge the negative
unconscious belief.
So if you have used the LoA in your life I would really like to
hear from you as to the results you have been seeing ? I do believe
that LoA is a fact and has powerful spiritual truths in it so it is
worth persevering with !
If you would like to know more about continuing on with the Law of
Attraction go here :http://www.lawofabundantattraction.com/
____________________________________________________________________
Poem from the film "Invictus"
____________________________________________________________________
The film "Invictus" portrayed the relationship between Nelson Mandela
and the South African World Cup Winning Captain Francois Pienaar
in their World Cup triumph of 1995.
The poem "Invictus" was the central inspirational gift from Mandela to
Pienaar before the Final.
The final verse reads :
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
For the rest of the poem go here : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Invictus
____________________________________________________________________
In the next Edition of 'Inspired Living Daily' I will be scouring the
internet on your behalf to bring you the latest in the world of self
improvement and personal development/success techniques, strategies
and tips. Your ideas, suggestions and feedback are most welcome to :
Oliver@inspiredlivingdily.co.uk
If you have enjoyed today's edition please "spread the word" to friends
and family. They can either sign up at my website @
http://inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk or at my Facebook Fan page :
http://tiny.cc/hnmdq.
Look out for Tuesday's regular Inspirational Article to your in box !
Until next time
BE INSPIRED and God Bless !
Oliver
www.inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Tuesday 10 August 2010
How to Achieve Personal and Professional Success with NLP
Hello again
Neuro Linguistic Programming now there's a meaty expression if ever you have heard one ? However if you have been around the personal development/self improvement worlds over the last ten or fifteen years,it's inevitable that you will have come across advocates and devotees of NLP as it is abbreviated to !? So what is it about ?
NLP was founded by John Grinder and Richard Bandler in the 1970s. They claimed that NLP would be instrumental in "finding ways to help people have better, fuller and richer lives".They coined the title to denote their belief in a connection between neurological processes ('neuro'), language ('linguistic') and behavioural patterns that have been learned through experience ('programming') and that can be organized to achieve specific goals in life
Understanding this tripart connection espoused the potential for self-determination through overcoming learned limitations and emphasized well-being and healthy functioning. Initially this discovery was used in traditional therapeutic environments to "treat" depression, phobias, anxiety disorders and the like ,but later it has been applied to people wanting to effect more generalised change in their personal and professional lives. This is done by a process called 'modelling'.This means in effect to study and apply the effectiveness of high achievers and successful people to one's own life !
NLP therefore at its simplest is a range of techniques and behaviours which lead to an enhanced communication process. It stands to reason that the better one is in 'interpersonal communication' the more likely one is to achieve success in all areas of life.
One of the best known NLP techniques is "rapport building" which consists of "mirroring and matching" another individual. Now the reason this is important is because it has been proven in a 1970 study at the University of Pennsylvania that 93% of our communication process operates at an unconscious and non verbal level. Anthony Robbins, one of the leaders in the field of peak human performance in this era, has stated that "people who like each other tend to be like each other." This means that essentially when we are "in sync" with another person effective rapport will be built and greater opportunity for more interpersonal and professional success.
The good news is that NLP teaches you how to get in "rapport" with the other person by matching and mirroring the other person's body movements, tone of speech and words used. For example observing how a person sits when in conversation, hand and body movements, words used, tone of voice, speed of speech etc . All of these can be skilfully observed and replicated by one person to mirror and match the communication of their partner. It is important not to let this turn into mimicry but to develop one's skills in this area by subtle application of specific techniques. By doing this you create an unconscious empathy with the other person and this leads to a more "intimate" relationship. You are then fully able to understand their reality even if not necessarily agreeing with it. By gaining rapport with other people one can improve family relationships, land a plum job at interview, become a better sales person or whatever.
Matching done with integrity and respect creates positive feelings and responses in you and others. Rapport is the ability to enter someone else's world, to make him feel you understand him, and that there is a strong connection between the two of you.
Someone who has achieved great success in life by practical application of NLP techniques is a gentleman by the name of Adam Khoo.At the age of 26 he became a millionaire despite being thrown out of primary school and coming bottom of the class in the the "express stream" at secondary school !
He has a unique story to tell on the benefits of NLP to Master Your Mind and Design Your Destiny. For more on this please copy and paste this link into your browser : http://tiny.cc/b45fw
Oliver Kent MA Qualified Life Coach
FREE Success Mindset Strategies @www.inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Facebook Fan page :http://tiny.cc/hnmdq
Neuro Linguistic Programming now there's a meaty expression if ever you have heard one ? However if you have been around the personal development/self improvement worlds over the last ten or fifteen years,it's inevitable that you will have come across advocates and devotees of NLP as it is abbreviated to !? So what is it about ?
NLP was founded by John Grinder and Richard Bandler in the 1970s. They claimed that NLP would be instrumental in "finding ways to help people have better, fuller and richer lives".They coined the title to denote their belief in a connection between neurological processes ('neuro'), language ('linguistic') and behavioural patterns that have been learned through experience ('programming') and that can be organized to achieve specific goals in life
Understanding this tripart connection espoused the potential for self-determination through overcoming learned limitations and emphasized well-being and healthy functioning. Initially this discovery was used in traditional therapeutic environments to "treat" depression, phobias, anxiety disorders and the like ,but later it has been applied to people wanting to effect more generalised change in their personal and professional lives. This is done by a process called 'modelling'.This means in effect to study and apply the effectiveness of high achievers and successful people to one's own life !
NLP therefore at its simplest is a range of techniques and behaviours which lead to an enhanced communication process. It stands to reason that the better one is in 'interpersonal communication' the more likely one is to achieve success in all areas of life.
One of the best known NLP techniques is "rapport building" which consists of "mirroring and matching" another individual. Now the reason this is important is because it has been proven in a 1970 study at the University of Pennsylvania that 93% of our communication process operates at an unconscious and non verbal level. Anthony Robbins, one of the leaders in the field of peak human performance in this era, has stated that "people who like each other tend to be like each other." This means that essentially when we are "in sync" with another person effective rapport will be built and greater opportunity for more interpersonal and professional success.
The good news is that NLP teaches you how to get in "rapport" with the other person by matching and mirroring the other person's body movements, tone of speech and words used. For example observing how a person sits when in conversation, hand and body movements, words used, tone of voice, speed of speech etc . All of these can be skilfully observed and replicated by one person to mirror and match the communication of their partner. It is important not to let this turn into mimicry but to develop one's skills in this area by subtle application of specific techniques. By doing this you create an unconscious empathy with the other person and this leads to a more "intimate" relationship. You are then fully able to understand their reality even if not necessarily agreeing with it. By gaining rapport with other people one can improve family relationships, land a plum job at interview, become a better sales person or whatever.
Matching done with integrity and respect creates positive feelings and responses in you and others. Rapport is the ability to enter someone else's world, to make him feel you understand him, and that there is a strong connection between the two of you.
Someone who has achieved great success in life by practical application of NLP techniques is a gentleman by the name of Adam Khoo.At the age of 26 he became a millionaire despite being thrown out of primary school and coming bottom of the class in the the "express stream" at secondary school !
He has a unique story to tell on the benefits of NLP to Master Your Mind and Design Your Destiny. For more on this please copy and paste this link into your browser : http://tiny.cc/b45fw
Oliver Kent MA Qualified Life Coach
FREE Success Mindset Strategies @www.inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Facebook Fan page :http://tiny.cc/hnmdq
The Art of Public Speaking and Persuasion 'Obama style'
Hello again
You have to admit it, whatever your politics, President Barak Obama is an polished and highly confident public speaker, persuader and motivator. I happen to believe that it was those 'skills' as much as his policies that won him the US Presidency in 2009.
His public speeches have an easy delivery, relaxed manner and supreme self confidence with every word delivered with meaning and depth. He shares a remarkable aptitude with all great leaders in the ability to get his audiences to hang on to his every word. Think of Nelson Mandela, Winston Churchill or John Kennedy, they all had the same ability to move their audiences to action.
Of course the ability to speak well in public gives people incredible powers of persuasion and greater success in life more generally. Getting people to really listen to you can help in terms of inspiring one's children to perform better at school, landing a dream job or the next big contract for your business !
So are great speakers born or made ? Well I suppose a few are naturally gifted speakers from a young age. However the majority of people who have great skills in this area have learned the art of public speaking along with other enhanced communication skills such as persuasion, influencing, sales, presentation etc. They all come under the same portfolio.
So it stands to reason that if one can master the art of public speaking 'Obama style' then one can achieve greater success in all areas of one's life, including home life with family and relations and , in one's job and career with more influence or in promoting one's business.
Sadly, however, the fear of public speaking holds many people back in life and causes them many missed opportunities. Indeed the fear of public speaking is ranked higher than the fear of death. Now that is thought provoking is it not ?
So what can you do to ease the fear of public speaking and learn to embrace it with confidence and enthusiasm ?
Toastmasters International (the world's largest public speaking training organisation) suggests the following top 10 tips :
1)Know your material. Pick a topic you are interested in. Know more about it than you include in your speech. Use humor, personal stories and conversational language - that way you won't easily forget what to say.
2)Practice. Practice. Practice! Rehearse out loud with all equipment you plan on using. Revise as necessary. Work to control filler words; Practice, pause and breathe. Practice with a timer and allow time for the unexpected.
3)Know the audience. Greet some of the audience members as they arrive. It's easier to speak to a group of friends than to strangers.
4)Know the room. Arrive early, walk around the speaking area and practice using the microphone and any visual aids.
5)Relax. Begin by addressing the audience. It buys you time and calms your nerves. Pause, smile and count to three before saying anything. ("One one-thousand, two one-thousand, three one-thousand. Pause. Begin.) Transform nervous energy into enthusiasm.
6)Visualize yourself giving your speech. Imagine yourself speaking, your voice loud, clear and confident. Visualize the audience clapping - it will boost your confidence.
7)Realize that people want you to succeed. Audiences want you to be interesting, stimulating, informative and entertaining. They're rooting for you.
8)Don't apologize for any nervousness or problem - the audience probably never noticed it.
9)Concentrate on the message - not the medium. Focus your attention away from your own anxieties and concentrate on your message and your audience.
10)Gain experience. Mainly, your speech should represent you - as an authority and as a person. Experience builds confidence, which is the key to effective speaking.
I do hope these top tips help you. Remember for most public speaking is skill that gets better the more you practice it. Do not let fear hold you back !
Just remember that President Obama went from little known senator to the highest public office in the world in just four years ! Learning to speak in public and become more persuasive will enrich your life and of those about you for the better. If you would like to find out more on President Obama's successful public speaking and persuasion techniques please copy and paste this link into your web browser : http://tiny.cc/eoqun
Qualified Life Coach MA
FREE Mindset Success Strategies @ www.inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Facebook Fan page : http://tiny.cc/hnmdq
You have to admit it, whatever your politics, President Barak Obama is an polished and highly confident public speaker, persuader and motivator. I happen to believe that it was those 'skills' as much as his policies that won him the US Presidency in 2009.
His public speeches have an easy delivery, relaxed manner and supreme self confidence with every word delivered with meaning and depth. He shares a remarkable aptitude with all great leaders in the ability to get his audiences to hang on to his every word. Think of Nelson Mandela, Winston Churchill or John Kennedy, they all had the same ability to move their audiences to action.
Of course the ability to speak well in public gives people incredible powers of persuasion and greater success in life more generally. Getting people to really listen to you can help in terms of inspiring one's children to perform better at school, landing a dream job or the next big contract for your business !
So are great speakers born or made ? Well I suppose a few are naturally gifted speakers from a young age. However the majority of people who have great skills in this area have learned the art of public speaking along with other enhanced communication skills such as persuasion, influencing, sales, presentation etc. They all come under the same portfolio.
So it stands to reason that if one can master the art of public speaking 'Obama style' then one can achieve greater success in all areas of one's life, including home life with family and relations and , in one's job and career with more influence or in promoting one's business.
Sadly, however, the fear of public speaking holds many people back in life and causes them many missed opportunities. Indeed the fear of public speaking is ranked higher than the fear of death. Now that is thought provoking is it not ?
So what can you do to ease the fear of public speaking and learn to embrace it with confidence and enthusiasm ?
Toastmasters International (the world's largest public speaking training organisation) suggests the following top 10 tips :
1)Know your material. Pick a topic you are interested in. Know more about it than you include in your speech. Use humor, personal stories and conversational language - that way you won't easily forget what to say.
2)Practice. Practice. Practice! Rehearse out loud with all equipment you plan on using. Revise as necessary. Work to control filler words; Practice, pause and breathe. Practice with a timer and allow time for the unexpected.
3)Know the audience. Greet some of the audience members as they arrive. It's easier to speak to a group of friends than to strangers.
4)Know the room. Arrive early, walk around the speaking area and practice using the microphone and any visual aids.
5)Relax. Begin by addressing the audience. It buys you time and calms your nerves. Pause, smile and count to three before saying anything. ("One one-thousand, two one-thousand, three one-thousand. Pause. Begin.) Transform nervous energy into enthusiasm.
6)Visualize yourself giving your speech. Imagine yourself speaking, your voice loud, clear and confident. Visualize the audience clapping - it will boost your confidence.
7)Realize that people want you to succeed. Audiences want you to be interesting, stimulating, informative and entertaining. They're rooting for you.
8)Don't apologize for any nervousness or problem - the audience probably never noticed it.
9)Concentrate on the message - not the medium. Focus your attention away from your own anxieties and concentrate on your message and your audience.
10)Gain experience. Mainly, your speech should represent you - as an authority and as a person. Experience builds confidence, which is the key to effective speaking.
I do hope these top tips help you. Remember for most public speaking is skill that gets better the more you practice it. Do not let fear hold you back !
Just remember that President Obama went from little known senator to the highest public office in the world in just four years ! Learning to speak in public and become more persuasive will enrich your life and of those about you for the better. If you would like to find out more on President Obama's successful public speaking and persuasion techniques please copy and paste this link into your web browser : http://tiny.cc/eoqun
Qualified Life Coach MA
FREE Mindset Success Strategies @ www.inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Facebook Fan page : http://tiny.cc/hnmdq
Friday 6 August 2010
Inspired Living Daily - Newsletter 6/8/10 - Are YOU Prosperous TODAY ?
INSPIRED LIVING DAILY
6 August 2010
In this issue :
1) Inspirational Quote of the Week
2) YOUR Prosperity Consciousness
3) Attracting the 'ideal' relationship
4) Gaining greater Job Satisfaction
5) Inspiring story - a fine line between persistence and obstinacy !
Hello again and welcome to ALL my subscribers
As ever a particularly warm welcome to all my new subscribers this week
of which I believe there are a number from Europe ?! It is great to
connect with you all. I would really like to hear from you, particularly
if you implement anything you read in this newsletter. My email is
oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk. The aim of this newsletter is to
inspire you to greater levels of success, wealth and happiness !
This week I have spent a lot of time writing articles for submission to
article directories on all kinds of subjects, but mainly matters which are
of interest to me. The topics covered include helping parents who have
children who misbehave, to troublesome teenagers, to people wanting
to restore a broken marriage or relationship and a host of others
even including dog obedience training ! What all these things have in
common is the issue of relationships and the fundamental importance
of creating 'healthy' relationships in our lives. So much misery is
caused in life by relationships that break down either with parents,
siblings, spouses and partners, work colleagues, bosses etc etc. Indeed
most counselling and therapy is centred around the damage done by
unhealthy relationships either in childhood or adult life !
So with this theme one of my topics today is attracting the 'ideal'
relationship into your life, more on that later !
____________________________________________________________________
Inspirational Quote of the Week
____________________________________________________________________
Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs,
even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor
spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in
the grey twilight that knows not victory nor defeat
Theodore Roosevelt
____________________________________________________________________
YOUR Prosperity Consciousness
__________________________________________________________________
So just HOW prosperous are you feeling today ? And by the word
'prosperous' I am here talking about prosperous in all areas of
your life, not just money and wealth ?
How are your relationships with your nearst and dearest, how 'blessed'
do you feel in your job, business and career ? Do you have a sense of
purpose and that you are playing your unique part on the 'stage of
life' ?
You know the Christian Bible says this : " God wishes above all things
that I propsper and be in health - even as my soul prospers !"
3 John 2.So there we have it, the Creator of the Universe desires that
we ALL prosper.
You know I saw a great profile of a person on Facebook the
other day. It said as follows : " I am higly favoured, truly blessed,
spirit filled, debt free, living in divine health and true financial
overflow". I thought to myself that really is the definition of
"prosperity". After all who doesn't want to see doors opening for them
everywhere they go, living without debt, in divine health and with money
(or lack therof) no longer an issue !?
However it is true that many people have to work hard to develop their
'prosperity consciousness' in life. So what is a 'prosperity
consciousness' ? An article in Ezine articles suggests :
"A prosperity consciousness means that you not only believe but know
with certainty, there is an unlimited supply of love, happiness,
intelligence, and prosperity available to everyone, but it is us as
the individual who must ask for and receive this abundance."
The article goes on to say :
"The person with a prosperity consciousness is a positive thinker,
never defeated mentally, and persists until he or she obtains the
goal. If limitation or lack appears, a person with a prosperity
consciousness does not accept the appearance as the absolute truth,
but sees it as a temporary situation, which will change as he or she
changes their thoughts, words and actions."
This is a very positive message suggesting that we can take control
over our "lack" circumstances and empower ourselves with greater
prosperity. If you would like to take some steps TODAY please read more
on 7 Steps to Prosperity Consciousness :
http://tiny.cc/dhsu6
____________________________________________________________________
Attracting the 'ideal' relationship
____________________________________________________________________
Now relationships come in all shapes and sizes from our earliest
with our parents or whomever was tasked with our childhood upbringing
to our siblings, to our spouse or life partner, to our work and leisure
relationships.
It stands to reason that once we become an adult and decide to settle
down that the relationship we have with our 'mate', our spouse or life
partner is the most important one. Even in these days of ambivalent
attitudes to marriage and easy divorce it is inspiring to me to hear
of people who have been maried for 60 or 70 years !
Sadly, many people experience relationship failures in our modern
society often due to pressures of one kind or another. It is not
uncommon to hear of multiple marriages or a string of broken
realtionships causing a great deal of heartache and unhappiness.
So the question is what can we do to find or attract the ideal
relationship into our lives ? An article at www.luisprada.com suggests :
"To define your true ideal relationship and partner, ask yourself
not what you want but what you need. What can you not live without
in a relationship? What do you need to thrive? What do you need from
a partner day to day?"
Interestingly the article goes on to say :
"How you and your partner interact with each other at the beginning
of your relationship will lay the foundation for how you relate to
each other for the duration. It will either guarantee a lifetime
partnership or a breakup."
The process of finding your 'ideal'relationship is one that needs
to be considered carefully. It is fundamental to your mental, emotional
and spiritual wellbeing. For 10 Steps in Attracting Your Ideal
Relationship please go here and good luck !
http://www.luisprada.com/Protected/Ten_Steps_to_Attract_Your_Ideal_
Relationship.htm
____________________________________________________________________
Gaining Greater Job Satisfaction
____________________________________________________________________
Let's face it more and more people these days are dissatisfied in their
jobs and careers ! However, on the other side, with the levels of
unemployment in the Western world it is apparent that anybody with
a job has a prized asset.
So just what can people do to make their working lives more enjoyable
and productive. After all people still spend on average 40 years
of their lives in gainful employment !?
An article in www.mindtools.com suggests there are seven 'ingredients'
for a successful job. These are as follows : Self-awareness;
Challenge; Variety; Positive attitude; Knowing your options; Balanced
lifestyle and a Sense of purpose.
On the issue of 'challenge' the article says this :
"Even if the job itself is not all that challenging, you can make it
challenging. Some great ideas here include:
Set performance standards for yourself - aim to beat your previous
record, or set up a friendly competition among co-workers.
Teach others your skills - nothing is more challenging, or rewarding,
than passing your skills and knowledge on to others.
Ask for new responsibilities - these will give you opportunities to
stretch yourself.
Start or take on a project that uses skills you would like to use,
or want to improve.
Commit to professional development - take courses, read books or
trade magazines and attend seminars. However you do it, keep your
skills fresh and current."
It is clear to me that we all have to take responsibility for
creating greater job and career satisfaction in our lives today ! It
is too easy just to adopt a 'victim' attitude and feel that we can do
nothing to improve our situations. This article is excellent for helping
you move forward with your job and career and gaining greater job
satisfaction !
http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newCDV_94.htm
____________________________________________________________________
Inspiring Success Story
____________________________________________________________________
In the early 1970s, Dr Judah Folkman proposed an idea in cancer
research that did not fit what scientists "knew" to be true: that
tumors did not generate new blood vessels to "feed" themselves and
grow. He was convinced that they did. But colleagues kept telling
him, "You're studying dirt," meaning his project was futile science.
Folkman and his colleagues discovered the first angiogenesis
inhibitors in the 1980s. Today more than 100,000 cancer patients are
benefiting from the research he pioneered.
Read more on this success story based on persistence :
http://www.rd.com/your-america-inspiring-people-and-stories/how-
famous-people-achieved-their-dreams/article28396-3.html
____________________________________________________________________
Coming up soon on Inspired Living daily
___________________________________________________________________
Top Motivation Tips
How to really "sell" yourself
Law of Attraction- fact or fantasy ?
___________________________________________________________________
Share YOUR news,tips, experiences and feedback
____________________________________________________________________
If you have your own news, tips, techniques, anything that you have
implemented and achieved greater success, health and happiness
then Inspired Living Daily wants to hear from YOU :
Oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Until next time,
God Bless
Oliver
http://www.inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Facebook Fan page : http://tiny.cc/hnmdq
Twitter: http://twitter.com/BInspiredDaily
PS If you have enjoyed this newsletter please encourage your friends
and family to sign up for FREE @ website and get my latest FREE
Report, 'The Mindset Revolution'.
_
6 August 2010
In this issue :
1) Inspirational Quote of the Week
2) YOUR Prosperity Consciousness
3) Attracting the 'ideal' relationship
4) Gaining greater Job Satisfaction
5) Inspiring story - a fine line between persistence and obstinacy !
Hello again and welcome to ALL my subscribers
As ever a particularly warm welcome to all my new subscribers this week
of which I believe there are a number from Europe ?! It is great to
connect with you all. I would really like to hear from you, particularly
if you implement anything you read in this newsletter. My email is
oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk. The aim of this newsletter is to
inspire you to greater levels of success, wealth and happiness !
This week I have spent a lot of time writing articles for submission to
article directories on all kinds of subjects, but mainly matters which are
of interest to me. The topics covered include helping parents who have
children who misbehave, to troublesome teenagers, to people wanting
to restore a broken marriage or relationship and a host of others
even including dog obedience training ! What all these things have in
common is the issue of relationships and the fundamental importance
of creating 'healthy' relationships in our lives. So much misery is
caused in life by relationships that break down either with parents,
siblings, spouses and partners, work colleagues, bosses etc etc. Indeed
most counselling and therapy is centred around the damage done by
unhealthy relationships either in childhood or adult life !
So with this theme one of my topics today is attracting the 'ideal'
relationship into your life, more on that later !
____________________________________________________________________
Inspirational Quote of the Week
____________________________________________________________________
Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs,
even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor
spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in
the grey twilight that knows not victory nor defeat
Theodore Roosevelt
____________________________________________________________________
YOUR Prosperity Consciousness
__________________________________________________________________
So just HOW prosperous are you feeling today ? And by the word
'prosperous' I am here talking about prosperous in all areas of
your life, not just money and wealth ?
How are your relationships with your nearst and dearest, how 'blessed'
do you feel in your job, business and career ? Do you have a sense of
purpose and that you are playing your unique part on the 'stage of
life' ?
You know the Christian Bible says this : " God wishes above all things
that I propsper and be in health - even as my soul prospers !"
3 John 2.So there we have it, the Creator of the Universe desires that
we ALL prosper.
You know I saw a great profile of a person on Facebook the
other day. It said as follows : " I am higly favoured, truly blessed,
spirit filled, debt free, living in divine health and true financial
overflow". I thought to myself that really is the definition of
"prosperity". After all who doesn't want to see doors opening for them
everywhere they go, living without debt, in divine health and with money
(or lack therof) no longer an issue !?
However it is true that many people have to work hard to develop their
'prosperity consciousness' in life. So what is a 'prosperity
consciousness' ? An article in Ezine articles suggests :
"A prosperity consciousness means that you not only believe but know
with certainty, there is an unlimited supply of love, happiness,
intelligence, and prosperity available to everyone, but it is us as
the individual who must ask for and receive this abundance."
The article goes on to say :
"The person with a prosperity consciousness is a positive thinker,
never defeated mentally, and persists until he or she obtains the
goal. If limitation or lack appears, a person with a prosperity
consciousness does not accept the appearance as the absolute truth,
but sees it as a temporary situation, which will change as he or she
changes their thoughts, words and actions."
This is a very positive message suggesting that we can take control
over our "lack" circumstances and empower ourselves with greater
prosperity. If you would like to take some steps TODAY please read more
on 7 Steps to Prosperity Consciousness :
http://tiny.cc/dhsu6
____________________________________________________________________
Attracting the 'ideal' relationship
____________________________________________________________________
Now relationships come in all shapes and sizes from our earliest
with our parents or whomever was tasked with our childhood upbringing
to our siblings, to our spouse or life partner, to our work and leisure
relationships.
It stands to reason that once we become an adult and decide to settle
down that the relationship we have with our 'mate', our spouse or life
partner is the most important one. Even in these days of ambivalent
attitudes to marriage and easy divorce it is inspiring to me to hear
of people who have been maried for 60 or 70 years !
Sadly, many people experience relationship failures in our modern
society often due to pressures of one kind or another. It is not
uncommon to hear of multiple marriages or a string of broken
realtionships causing a great deal of heartache and unhappiness.
So the question is what can we do to find or attract the ideal
relationship into our lives ? An article at www.luisprada.com suggests :
"To define your true ideal relationship and partner, ask yourself
not what you want but what you need. What can you not live without
in a relationship? What do you need to thrive? What do you need from
a partner day to day?"
Interestingly the article goes on to say :
"How you and your partner interact with each other at the beginning
of your relationship will lay the foundation for how you relate to
each other for the duration. It will either guarantee a lifetime
partnership or a breakup."
The process of finding your 'ideal'relationship is one that needs
to be considered carefully. It is fundamental to your mental, emotional
and spiritual wellbeing. For 10 Steps in Attracting Your Ideal
Relationship please go here and good luck !
http://www.luisprada.com/Protected/Ten_Steps_to_Attract_Your_Ideal_
Relationship.htm
____________________________________________________________________
Gaining Greater Job Satisfaction
____________________________________________________________________
Let's face it more and more people these days are dissatisfied in their
jobs and careers ! However, on the other side, with the levels of
unemployment in the Western world it is apparent that anybody with
a job has a prized asset.
So just what can people do to make their working lives more enjoyable
and productive. After all people still spend on average 40 years
of their lives in gainful employment !?
An article in www.mindtools.com suggests there are seven 'ingredients'
for a successful job. These are as follows : Self-awareness;
Challenge; Variety; Positive attitude; Knowing your options; Balanced
lifestyle and a Sense of purpose.
On the issue of 'challenge' the article says this :
"Even if the job itself is not all that challenging, you can make it
challenging. Some great ideas here include:
Set performance standards for yourself - aim to beat your previous
record, or set up a friendly competition among co-workers.
Teach others your skills - nothing is more challenging, or rewarding,
than passing your skills and knowledge on to others.
Ask for new responsibilities - these will give you opportunities to
stretch yourself.
Start or take on a project that uses skills you would like to use,
or want to improve.
Commit to professional development - take courses, read books or
trade magazines and attend seminars. However you do it, keep your
skills fresh and current."
It is clear to me that we all have to take responsibility for
creating greater job and career satisfaction in our lives today ! It
is too easy just to adopt a 'victim' attitude and feel that we can do
nothing to improve our situations. This article is excellent for helping
you move forward with your job and career and gaining greater job
satisfaction !
http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newCDV_94.htm
____________________________________________________________________
Inspiring Success Story
____________________________________________________________________
In the early 1970s, Dr Judah Folkman proposed an idea in cancer
research that did not fit what scientists "knew" to be true: that
tumors did not generate new blood vessels to "feed" themselves and
grow. He was convinced that they did. But colleagues kept telling
him, "You're studying dirt," meaning his project was futile science.
Folkman and his colleagues discovered the first angiogenesis
inhibitors in the 1980s. Today more than 100,000 cancer patients are
benefiting from the research he pioneered.
Read more on this success story based on persistence :
http://www.rd.com/your-america-inspiring-people-and-stories/how-
famous-people-achieved-their-dreams/article28396-3.html
____________________________________________________________________
Coming up soon on Inspired Living daily
___________________________________________________________________
Top Motivation Tips
How to really "sell" yourself
Law of Attraction- fact or fantasy ?
___________________________________________________________________
Share YOUR news,tips, experiences and feedback
____________________________________________________________________
If you have your own news, tips, techniques, anything that you have
implemented and achieved greater success, health and happiness
then Inspired Living Daily wants to hear from YOU :
Oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Until next time,
God Bless
Oliver
http://www.inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Facebook Fan page : http://tiny.cc/hnmdq
Twitter: http://twitter.com/BInspiredDaily
PS If you have enjoyed this newsletter please encourage your friends
and family to sign up for FREE @ website and get my latest FREE
Report, 'The Mindset Revolution'.
_
Thursday 5 August 2010
The Happy Child Guide
Hello again
Are you a parent of young children ? Do they sometimes/often misbehave ? Are you at your wits end ? If so read on, help is at hand !Now no doubt you have seen parenting programmes like 'Super Nanny' and envied the 'expert' descending on your house to help you deal with your unruly kids. My heart really goes out to some of the parents (and indeed) children featured in those programmes. Calm descends on the household and Super Nanny goes on her merry way like Mary Poppins having brought peace and harmony to an embattled home !
If only real life were like that ?! For most parents dealing with children with behavioural problems is at best challenging and at worst a living kind of 'hell' !
Now I have made a discovery and it is a secret a lot of child behaviour programmes certainly on television don't deal with. You see they tend to concentrate on behaviour or misbehaviour and therefore behaviour modification techniques etc. The 'naughty step' seems to become the 'must have' tool for any stressed out parent dealing with a child's wilful and stubborn behaviour.
What many of these programmes fail to address is the child's psychology related to his or her brain biochemistry and the effects of that. Now I want to stress here I am not seeking to 'medicalise' any child's naughty behaviour and it is clear there are some medical conditions such as Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and Attention Hyperactivity Disorder (AHD) that do need diagnosis.
No, what I am talking about here is the effect of hormones in the brain called 'cortisol'. Getting into stressed emotional states causes the adrenal glands in the body to release toxic hormones into the brain called cortisol.The science shows that BEFORE a child misbehaves there is a release of excessive amounts of cortisol into the brain. Essentially therefore if a child gets stressed or overstimulated this excessively toxic hormone is 'at play'.Therefore if a child becomes hyperactive, defiant, argumentative,unfocuussed and even physically violent this can be seen as a direct esult of what is going on in their brain at that time.
I think you will agree this discovery explains a lot ? After all it makes sense, we all get stressed from time to time and behave irrationally as a result ? You only have to look at 'road rage' where drivers 'cut each other up' and behave in a totally ilogical manner.
It is important to say here that stress is not THE only cause of misbehaviour by a child, but it is one of the three major causes identified by child brain experts. The other two are that they may have a genuine need or they just don't understand something.
Another important factor is that so many so called child behaviour experts rely on models of punishment and reward.If you want to rid yourself of the stressful misbehaviour permanently and have a child who is genuinely cooperative, loving, intelligent,focussed and happy for life you need to focus on different discipline techniques that are not based on reward or punishment. These are the least effective methods of getting a child to listen and cooperate.These old methods can potentially have life long consequences in reducing a child's self esteem and confidence.
So if you would like to find another more effective way of disciplining your child, I have found an amazing resource written by a true child expert who not only understands the way in which your child's brain works, but can show you highly effective techniques that don't rely on misguided and outdated models of child correction. Please copy and paste this link into your web browser : http://tiny.cc/5tvs5
Qulaified Life Coach MA
FREE Success Strategies @www.inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Facebook Fan Page : http:/tiny.cc/hnmdq
Are you a parent of young children ? Do they sometimes/often misbehave ? Are you at your wits end ? If so read on, help is at hand !Now no doubt you have seen parenting programmes like 'Super Nanny' and envied the 'expert' descending on your house to help you deal with your unruly kids. My heart really goes out to some of the parents (and indeed) children featured in those programmes. Calm descends on the household and Super Nanny goes on her merry way like Mary Poppins having brought peace and harmony to an embattled home !
If only real life were like that ?! For most parents dealing with children with behavioural problems is at best challenging and at worst a living kind of 'hell' !
Now I have made a discovery and it is a secret a lot of child behaviour programmes certainly on television don't deal with. You see they tend to concentrate on behaviour or misbehaviour and therefore behaviour modification techniques etc. The 'naughty step' seems to become the 'must have' tool for any stressed out parent dealing with a child's wilful and stubborn behaviour.
What many of these programmes fail to address is the child's psychology related to his or her brain biochemistry and the effects of that. Now I want to stress here I am not seeking to 'medicalise' any child's naughty behaviour and it is clear there are some medical conditions such as Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and Attention Hyperactivity Disorder (AHD) that do need diagnosis.
No, what I am talking about here is the effect of hormones in the brain called 'cortisol'. Getting into stressed emotional states causes the adrenal glands in the body to release toxic hormones into the brain called cortisol.The science shows that BEFORE a child misbehaves there is a release of excessive amounts of cortisol into the brain. Essentially therefore if a child gets stressed or overstimulated this excessively toxic hormone is 'at play'.Therefore if a child becomes hyperactive, defiant, argumentative,unfocuussed and even physically violent this can be seen as a direct esult of what is going on in their brain at that time.
I think you will agree this discovery explains a lot ? After all it makes sense, we all get stressed from time to time and behave irrationally as a result ? You only have to look at 'road rage' where drivers 'cut each other up' and behave in a totally ilogical manner.
It is important to say here that stress is not THE only cause of misbehaviour by a child, but it is one of the three major causes identified by child brain experts. The other two are that they may have a genuine need or they just don't understand something.
Another important factor is that so many so called child behaviour experts rely on models of punishment and reward.If you want to rid yourself of the stressful misbehaviour permanently and have a child who is genuinely cooperative, loving, intelligent,focussed and happy for life you need to focus on different discipline techniques that are not based on reward or punishment. These are the least effective methods of getting a child to listen and cooperate.These old methods can potentially have life long consequences in reducing a child's self esteem and confidence.
So if you would like to find another more effective way of disciplining your child, I have found an amazing resource written by a true child expert who not only understands the way in which your child's brain works, but can show you highly effective techniques that don't rely on misguided and outdated models of child correction. Please copy and paste this link into your web browser : http://tiny.cc/5tvs5
Qulaified Life Coach MA
FREE Success Strategies @www.inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Facebook Fan Page : http:/tiny.cc/hnmdq
Tuesday 3 August 2010
Save YOUR Marriage TODAY !
Hello again
Are you facing divorce today ? Is your marriage breaking down and looking like there is no hope ? Do you want to save your marriage but your spouse doesn't ? Well read on because there is still hope.
But before that let's look at some of the things that divorce does to people. Before that even lets look at what the Christian Bible says about divorce. In Malachi 2 it says " " I hate divorce" says the Lord God of Israel. Well if that is what the Almighty says then that is good enough for me.
So as I said what does divorce do to people :
1) Children of the marriage grow up feeling insecure wondering why their Mum or Dad is not around any more and wondering why they left ? 2) People lose their homes because of what some court has ordered; 3) People struggle to pay their bills because their spouse has abandoned them ; 4) People drive around in old cars without enough money to even eat properly much less having any fun in life; 5) Divorce causes severe stress leading in some cases to serious medical problems or even exacerbates pre existing ones; 6) Men in particular are often unable to see their children because of a ruling by a judge in a sterile court who goes home to his own family the same day; 7) Children are being placed at a disadvantage that will follow them all of their lives. Studies have shown they will have increased risk of everything from lower grades, to risk of going to jail, to failure of their own marriage if they are not raised by both mother and father together; 8) Divorce drastically drops the economic standard of living for both men and women. In short, you will probably have much more money at home than living apart.
This is just a snap shot of the things can happen after a divorce. For some people it is sadly all too much and they even give up the will to live or end up taking their own lives.
So if you are feeling TODAY that enough is enough, you are at a crossroads ! Are you going to do what it takes to save your marriage even if your spouse doesn't want to ? Are you going to fight for your marriage and avoid the consequences of divorce mentioned earlier ?
Some things you must NOT do if you want to save your marriage are as follows ! You must not beg, plead convince or in any other way try and "manipulate" your spouse to stay in the marriage. That will drive them away even more quickly. You must not act out of anger or revenge these are fatal. But and it is a big BUT you must not do NOTHING ! If the marriage is in serious trouble you just have to act before it is too late. You need a "radical" approach from a proven "expert" who can help you not only save the marriage but take it to heights it has never experienced before. For this highly recommended resource please go here and the very best of luck ! SavetheMarriage
Are you facing divorce today ? Is your marriage breaking down and looking like there is no hope ? Do you want to save your marriage but your spouse doesn't ? Well read on because there is still hope.
But before that let's look at some of the things that divorce does to people. Before that even lets look at what the Christian Bible says about divorce. In Malachi 2 it says " " I hate divorce" says the Lord God of Israel. Well if that is what the Almighty says then that is good enough for me.
So as I said what does divorce do to people :
1) Children of the marriage grow up feeling insecure wondering why their Mum or Dad is not around any more and wondering why they left ? 2) People lose their homes because of what some court has ordered; 3) People struggle to pay their bills because their spouse has abandoned them ; 4) People drive around in old cars without enough money to even eat properly much less having any fun in life; 5) Divorce causes severe stress leading in some cases to serious medical problems or even exacerbates pre existing ones; 6) Men in particular are often unable to see their children because of a ruling by a judge in a sterile court who goes home to his own family the same day; 7) Children are being placed at a disadvantage that will follow them all of their lives. Studies have shown they will have increased risk of everything from lower grades, to risk of going to jail, to failure of their own marriage if they are not raised by both mother and father together; 8) Divorce drastically drops the economic standard of living for both men and women. In short, you will probably have much more money at home than living apart.
This is just a snap shot of the things can happen after a divorce. For some people it is sadly all too much and they even give up the will to live or end up taking their own lives.
So if you are feeling TODAY that enough is enough, you are at a crossroads ! Are you going to do what it takes to save your marriage even if your spouse doesn't want to ? Are you going to fight for your marriage and avoid the consequences of divorce mentioned earlier ?
Some things you must NOT do if you want to save your marriage are as follows ! You must not beg, plead convince or in any other way try and "manipulate" your spouse to stay in the marriage. That will drive them away even more quickly. You must not act out of anger or revenge these are fatal. But and it is a big BUT you must not do NOTHING ! If the marriage is in serious trouble you just have to act before it is too late. You need a "radical" approach from a proven "expert" who can help you not only save the marriage but take it to heights it has never experienced before. For this highly recommended resource please go here and the very best of luck ! SavetheMarriage
Sunday 1 August 2010
Better Sex for Christian Couples ( and what NON Christians could learn too!)
The Bible says in Genesis 1:27, "So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them." So there we have it, God created male and female and of course by reason of that the sexual union, the ideal being the "one flesh union".
Now many Christians feel uncomfortable in talking about sexual matters, maybe due to conditioning or upbringing ? It should be self evident however that sex being a God made pleasure, it is not wrong to talk about sexuality. Equally it is not wrong for Christian couples to confess to each other if it is an area where things are less than satisfactory.
Of course it goes without saying here that the sexual union for a Christian couple is in the context of marriage and not any other form of relationship !
So if we accept that God created sex then it is only right to believe that God would want the sexual experience in marriage to be a fulfilling and unifying one.
However it is apparent that many Christian couples have less than satisfactory sex lives and this could be a potential source of a relationship coming under pressure, breaking down and even leading to divorce. It is a sobering fact that the divorce rates for Christians are little better than non Christians. It is therefore important for Christian husbands and wives to address this matter sensitively and to look for help if the marriage is having problems in the sexual area.
According to Scripture, the primary purpose of marriage is not to have children...the primary purpose of marriage is to provide a "God blessed" environment in which a man and a woman can express their God-given sexuality. There is a comfort that only comes from knowing that God intended sex for pleasure, enjoyment and fun...not just to "multiply."
Once again I want to say that it is not offensive to God to talk about this subject. People think Christians are sexually naïve, it's just that sex for a Christian should be a Godly experience with him at the centre rather than an exercise in carnality. But Christians cannot afford to let embarrassment, naivety or ignorance affect their knowledge of their sexuality. After all God desires Christian couples to have greater "intimacy" in their marriage and this can be achieved by improving their sexual lives.
It is with the above in mind that I would like to recommend two products : "Sexual Skills for the Christian husband which gives husbands advice that is scripturally sound and technically correct and "Sexual Satisfaction for the Christian wife" which will enable her to experience sex as the exciting, fulfilling and marriage-building experience that God intended it to be. I do hope these guides are helpful. NB Both ebooks can be accessed from the same page.Click here
Now many Christians feel uncomfortable in talking about sexual matters, maybe due to conditioning or upbringing ? It should be self evident however that sex being a God made pleasure, it is not wrong to talk about sexuality. Equally it is not wrong for Christian couples to confess to each other if it is an area where things are less than satisfactory.
Of course it goes without saying here that the sexual union for a Christian couple is in the context of marriage and not any other form of relationship !
So if we accept that God created sex then it is only right to believe that God would want the sexual experience in marriage to be a fulfilling and unifying one.
However it is apparent that many Christian couples have less than satisfactory sex lives and this could be a potential source of a relationship coming under pressure, breaking down and even leading to divorce. It is a sobering fact that the divorce rates for Christians are little better than non Christians. It is therefore important for Christian husbands and wives to address this matter sensitively and to look for help if the marriage is having problems in the sexual area.
According to Scripture, the primary purpose of marriage is not to have children...the primary purpose of marriage is to provide a "God blessed" environment in which a man and a woman can express their God-given sexuality. There is a comfort that only comes from knowing that God intended sex for pleasure, enjoyment and fun...not just to "multiply."
Once again I want to say that it is not offensive to God to talk about this subject. People think Christians are sexually naïve, it's just that sex for a Christian should be a Godly experience with him at the centre rather than an exercise in carnality. But Christians cannot afford to let embarrassment, naivety or ignorance affect their knowledge of their sexuality. After all God desires Christian couples to have greater "intimacy" in their marriage and this can be achieved by improving their sexual lives.
It is with the above in mind that I would like to recommend two products : "Sexual Skills for the Christian husband which gives husbands advice that is scripturally sound and technically correct and "Sexual Satisfaction for the Christian wife" which will enable her to experience sex as the exciting, fulfilling and marriage-building experience that God intended it to be. I do hope these guides are helpful. NB Both ebooks can be accessed from the same page.Click here
Attention ALL Men ! A Divorce Lawyer's "Insider Secrets" to WIN Your Divorce !
This is an enormously difficult article to write ? Why you may ask ? Well because it brings back painful memories of my devastating divorce. Now look, I don't want you to feel sorry for me, it happens and with increasing regularity. Nearly 50% of first marriages end in divorce and 60% to 80% of second marriages ! These are dreadful statistics I am sure you agree ? But you are a life coach, a qualified man with letters after your name ! So ? Divorce affects every strata of society and is indiscriminate in the way it destroys families and assets like a tornado !
Now in this article I am not going into the reasons as to why people divorce. There are a hundred and one reasons and I am not here to pass judgment ! I am a strong advocate of marriage and monogamy but sometimes for whatever reason one or other parties or indeed both decide its time to part company. Before that eventuality it would be hoped that couples would seek relationship counseling or mediation or indeed a legal separation before eventually deciding to divorce. Whatever the reason, when it reaches that point it is an enormously sad occurrence.
Now this article is aimed specifically at and for men. Why ? Because I am a man and I have experienced the devastating consequences of divorce. That is not to say that women also don't suffer by reason of divorce, this is not a sexist article.
But, and it is a big but, many men do suffer terribly as a result of divorce and I am one of them. I feel very strongly about this and if I can help anyone avoid a divorce I will and any man to minimize the effects of divorce I will also. I myself lost my wife and kids, my home and most of my money !
The family law courts in the western world traditionally have to put the welfare of the children first which usually looks at keeping them in the former matrimonial home with the mother while the husband is expected to move out while the divorce process takes its process.
However as the divorce unfolds and once lawyers get involved then a difficult situation becomes all the more adversarial and nasty. Divorce is a crushing process at the best of times without "hard nosed" lawyers adding to your woes ! I am not going to say any more for fear of bring thought bitter (which I am not !) but the lawyers really do not have your best intentions at heart, trust me on that ! It is a business for them and once there know that you have realizable assets then they smell blood like the worst kind of shark attack !
Now I am here as the "voice of experience". I really did not know what had hit me and by the time I did it was all over I had lost the lot. I do NOT want that to happen to any other man. I therefore have no hesitation in recommending a product to you which will reveal the "insider secrets" from a former divorce lawyer who was tired of seeing men taken to the cleaners ! I only wish I had discovered this before my catastrophic divorce ! Having this insider knowledge will give you a sporting chance of "winning' your divorce, keeping your kids, home and assets and will prepare you for the "battle" ahead. Please click here to take a close look at this and the best of luck !
Now in this article I am not going into the reasons as to why people divorce. There are a hundred and one reasons and I am not here to pass judgment ! I am a strong advocate of marriage and monogamy but sometimes for whatever reason one or other parties or indeed both decide its time to part company. Before that eventuality it would be hoped that couples would seek relationship counseling or mediation or indeed a legal separation before eventually deciding to divorce. Whatever the reason, when it reaches that point it is an enormously sad occurrence.
Now this article is aimed specifically at and for men. Why ? Because I am a man and I have experienced the devastating consequences of divorce. That is not to say that women also don't suffer by reason of divorce, this is not a sexist article.
But, and it is a big but, many men do suffer terribly as a result of divorce and I am one of them. I feel very strongly about this and if I can help anyone avoid a divorce I will and any man to minimize the effects of divorce I will also. I myself lost my wife and kids, my home and most of my money !
The family law courts in the western world traditionally have to put the welfare of the children first which usually looks at keeping them in the former matrimonial home with the mother while the husband is expected to move out while the divorce process takes its process.
However as the divorce unfolds and once lawyers get involved then a difficult situation becomes all the more adversarial and nasty. Divorce is a crushing process at the best of times without "hard nosed" lawyers adding to your woes ! I am not going to say any more for fear of bring thought bitter (which I am not !) but the lawyers really do not have your best intentions at heart, trust me on that ! It is a business for them and once there know that you have realizable assets then they smell blood like the worst kind of shark attack !
Now I am here as the "voice of experience". I really did not know what had hit me and by the time I did it was all over I had lost the lot. I do NOT want that to happen to any other man. I therefore have no hesitation in recommending a product to you which will reveal the "insider secrets" from a former divorce lawyer who was tired of seeing men taken to the cleaners ! I only wish I had discovered this before my catastrophic divorce ! Having this insider knowledge will give you a sporting chance of "winning' your divorce, keeping your kids, home and assets and will prepare you for the "battle" ahead. Please click here to take a close look at this and the best of luck !
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)