Friday 26 November 2010

Learn the Spiritual Laws of PROSPERITY !

Inspired Living Daily

26 November 2010

In this issue :

1)Inspirational Quote of the Week
2)The Creativity Law of Prosperity
3)The Vacuum Law of Prosperity
4)The Tithing Law of Prosperity


Hello to All

It's a pleasure to bring you this regular Inspirational Newsletter
once again !

Just a reminder that this Newsletter is sent out every two weeks or so to
people who subscribed to a recent Free Report of mine called the 'Mindset
Revolution' or indeed to people who signed in to receive further
information related to articles of mine posted in Ezine articles. If it
no longer meets your needs then you are able to unsubscribe at the
bottom of this page.

Today I am focusing on the Spiritual Laws of Prosperity. Recently
I have been following the work of someone called Randy Gage who
has made a twenty year study of Prosperity and has himself become
a multi millionaire earner in the field of Network/Multi Level
Marketing.

Randy has identified 7 Spiritual Laws of Prosperity as such :
1) Creativity; 2) Vacuum Law; 3) Tithing; 4) Circulation; 5)Imaging;
6) Faith; 7) Giving and Receiving.

I intend to discuss three of these here being Creativity, Vacuum and
Tithing.

Prosperity is everybody's birthright, I firmly believe that so I hope
this information will empower you to find the prosperity that you so
richly deserve. Enjoy ! If you would like to communicate with me at any
time please email : oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk

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Inspirational Quote of the Week
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'Prosperity is a way of living and thinking, not just money and things.
Poverty is a way of living and thinking, not just a lack of money and
things.' Eric Butterworth.
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The Creativity Law of Prosperity
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Randy Gage an expert on Prosperity says there 'is no such thing as a
money problem' rather 'an ideas problem'.

He goes on to say that in any economic situation including a downturn
or recession then there are always people becoming wealthy. Randy says
that to become prosperous you must become a 'contrarian' in your thinking
ie adopt a different mindset than others and see opportunities where
people see only hurdles or obstacles.

In the following video Randy discusses the energy dynamics of creating
prosperity and indeed creating harmony and wealth in all areas of one's
life. He suggests 'all things are energy'. Randy says that prosperity
can be 'manifested from the ethers by the power of ideas, vision and
imagination.'

For the You Tube video on this please go here :

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9AdFd2flAy0

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The Vacuum Law of Prosperity
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What exactly is the Vacuum Law of Prosperity ?

Randy Gage suggests that when one's prosperity is stalled we need to ask
the question as to 'what we are holding on to that we should be releasing'?
The reason being that 'nature abhors a vacuum' and that the Universe
being inherently good wants to put harmony where there is chaos.

He suggests getting rid of things that are not serving us any longer
such as dysfunctional relationships or giving way old clothes or shoes
to charity if you want a new pair or closet of clothes.

So if you are struggling in any area of prosperity or manifesting
your innermost desires in any area of your life please consider
the fundamental question posed above.

For more on the Vacuum Law please go here :

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFSqcqhu2Q4
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The Tithing Law of Prosperity
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The dynamic law of Tithing is the idea that you give back one tenth
of your earnings to the 'source of your spiritual nourishment.'

Randy Gage recounts how when he was broke and in huge debt having sold
all his furniture and sleeping on the floor he gave a dollar in
the basket of his local church and soon after got a refund cheque
from his electricity company !

He goes on to tell how he has paid one tenth of his income from that
time and his earnings have gone up every year since !

He also suggests where to give your tithe and how living by this
spiritual law and the others leads to greater prosperity.

For more on this fascinating subject go here :

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LeHK77AkDoQ

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Well folks I do hope you find this information on the Spiritual
Laws of Prosperity as fascinating as I do ?! I firmly believe that if you
apply these laws to your own life you will see great changes.

A reminder that you can email me at any time : oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk

If you are currently looking for a Home Based Business Opportunity then
I am currently associated with a Network Marketing Opportunity called
AshMax. A low cost investment of $25 gives the very real prospect of
making residual income For Life ! Please email me for further details.

Also if you are likely to be in the UK in February I can highly recommend
Andy Harrington's 'Power to Achieve Event'. This is an amazing Personal
Development weekend (Feb. 4 to 6) where you get to break wooden boards with
your bare hands and to release limiting beliefs and fears. For more on
this go here :

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Power-to-Achieve-Event/111929612203591

PS I am off to South Africa soon for Christmas so at time of writing
I am unsure as to date of next Newsletter. May I take this early
opportunity to wish you the compliments of the Christmas season.

Until next time.

BE INSPIRED !

God Bless

Oliver

http://inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk

Sunday 26 September 2010

Inspired Living Daily Newsletter - 24/9/10

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Friday 17 September 2010

Are YOU Healthy in Mind, Body and Spirit ? (Newsletter 17/9/10)

INSPIRED LIVING DAILY

17 September 2010

In this issue :

1)Inspirational Quote of the Week
2)Do you have a mentally healthy mind ?
3)Healthy Mind, Healthy Body
4)The link between spirituality and health
5)Inspiring story of 'Superman'


Welcome one and all

It's really great to have you here again this week for another lively
dose of inspiration. As ever, a particularly warm welcome to all my
new subscribers from wherever you are, thanks for being here ! If
you would like to drop me a line at any time with your comments,
suggestions, feedback or ideas I would love to hear from you ! My email
is oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk

As you will know if you have been reading the newsletter in recent
weeks I have been looking at various themes and this week I have decided
to look at the mind-body-spirit link and the importance of all three
working in harmony and balance together !

We are in such an enlightened era these days in our common understanding
of the the ability of our minds to create both positive and
negative circumstances in our lives and indeed how negative thinking/
emotions can do such damage to our bodies. One statistic is
that an estimated 70% of visits to a doctor are stress related. That
is quite an astonishing figure I am sure you will agree ?

The good news is that there are lots of different methods and techniques
out there, many of which are natural in origin, which can help in balancing
the mind-body connection such as relaxation, meditation, yoga and an host
of others. As regards spirituality, no one really knows for sure how
spirituality is connected to health but the fact is undeniable that
it is. Certain spiritual practices such as prayer can contribute to
a sense of health and well being and a connection to something 'unseen'
and mystical ?!More on the mind-body-spirit connection in the articles
that follow.

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Inspirational Quote of the Week
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To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This
is to have succeeded. Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Do you have a mentally healthy mind ?
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Dr Adam Cash in an article in en.citizendium.org suggests the following
ten steps as keys to good mental health :

1)Love yourself and accept yourself as you are;
2)Struggle to overcome, yet learn to let go;
3)Stay connected with other people and nurture relationships
4)Strive for freedom and self-determination;
5)Find your purpose and work towards your goals;
6)Find hope and maintain faith and have a "positivity bias";
7)Lend a helping hand with charitable activities;
8)Find flow by being deeply engrossed and focused on selected activities;
9)Enjoy beautiful things in life, including music and art;
10)Stay flexible. Be ready to change. It takes courage to change our ways.

Quite a menu I am sure you would agree, but some strong truths there !
Essentially, in my own mind, much of this is about self realisation, about
finding oneself and coming from a healthy place of one's own self worth
in connecting with people and the world in general. Having a healthy
mind means that one can function in society at a far more optimal level
than say someone diagnosed with a severe mental illness.

It is clear that much of the 'brokenness' we see in society today is
caused by 'broken minds' such that people exhibit negative patterns
of behaviour based on what their minds are conveying to them as truth.
People's conditioning in childhood leads them often to believe that
their horizons are limited by the expectations and 'realities of
life' imposed on them by parents or other important authority figures.

The mind is programmed from an early age and many people in adult
life have to reprogramme their minds and particularly their
subconscious minds if they are to achieve real success in life.

The article goes on to say :

'A Western conception of a mentally healthy mind is a person who
functions effectively as a human being, who continues to adapt favourably
to the environment, who has self-control and is alert to changes in
the environment. He or she responds to change effectively by avoiding
pain and finding pleasure, and finds ways to get greater resources,
knowledge, power, and tools for survival.'

OK well that may sound a bit deep and philosophical, but it essentially
means that we gauge our mental health by our ability to 'function
effectively' in the real world and adapt to change. It is often at times
of severe stress such as job loss or divorce or loss of a loved one
that our minds can come to breaking point if we are not careful. This
emphasises the importance of the mind-body-spirit link in that if
we can maintain certain routines at those times like exercise/good
nutrition or spiritual practices such as prayer or meditation then
the mental stress can be dealt with effectively. If we neglect any of
those then our system can go into breakdown mode just like a car that
hasn't been serviced with oil regularly.

For more on the subject of a Mentally Health Mind go here :

http://en.citizendium.org/wiki/Mentally_healthy_mind
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Health Mind, Healthy Body
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A report by Anne Kelly in www.irishscientist.ie says :

'The Romans had a proverb, 'mens sana in corpore sano,' meaning
'a healthy mind in a healthy body'. Research worldwide, including in
the Department of Physiology, Trinity College Dublin, shows that the
Romans were really on to something. While we have known for a long
time that exercise can protect general health and wellbeing, it now
seems that exercise may help to preserve brain health also. For example,
fitness levels have been associated with maintenance of brain function
in age while physical activity has been linked with a reduced risk
of development of Alzheimer's disease and dementia.'

So this is probably quite commonly known information nowadays, namely
that one's physical health and optimal mental reasoning/brain functioning
are intimately linked. It is encouraging to believe that if we
maintain reasonable standards of fitness and physical activity we can
ward off degenerative brain conditions such as dementia and other
impairments of old age !

The mind-body link is such a powerful one.How many times have you
heard people say that if they give up a regular exercise regime they
become sluggish or lethargic ! And most often they are not really
talking about physically but more so mentally. We have gotten used
to seeing some of our great Western leaders going for their daily jog
or cycle ride or their game of golf. Bearing in mind that these people
are handling the pressures of high office, then they obviously realise
the benefits of regular exercise on their physiology and mental
acuity.

Of course the healthy mind-body link is not just about the effects
of regular physical exercise but about good nutrition and an host of
beneficial supplements and additions people can bring to their diets.
There are huge global industries extolling the benefits of many
naturally occurring products such as aloe vera and many others.

It should also be borne in mind that the brain can need help as it can
get depleted of neurotransmitters like serotonin which play an
important role in how we feel each day. Many people experience pain,
stress, depression and anxiety associated with low serotonin levels.
Fortunately, there are plenty of natural ways we can boost our mood
by helping our body produce the right amount of serotonin. In this way
the health mind-body link can be maintained.

For more on how these natural ways to boost one's brain chemistry
go here :http://www.naturalnews.com/026332_serotonin_health_mood.html
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The link between spirituality and health
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If we accept the basic premise that the mind, body and spirit are
connected, then it is important to understand that one's 'spirituality'
can have a direct effect on developing and maintaining a healthy
body and mind. This relationship is symbiotic in that one thing feeds
off another and for the organism, in this case a human being, to be
healthy then there has to be a balance between all three.

Now for some people the issue of 'spirituality' is a confusing and
difficult one because they may link the word with an organised religion
and for that reason refuse to countenance any spiritual dimension to life
personally for them, or of the link between that an healthy mind-body-
spirit connection.

Even if a person has no spiritual identity through a formal religion
they may still be in touch with their spirituality in unconscious ways.

An article in familydoctor.org says as follows :

'Spirituality is the way you find meaning, hope, comfort and inner
peace in your life. Many people find spirituality through religion.
Some find it through music, art or a connection with nature. Others
find it in their values and principles.'

As I am sure you will agree that is quite a broad definition of
spirituality but the important point there for me is in the word 'meaning'.
Finding meaning or purpose to one's life, which in essence is a
spiritual practice, contributes to one's well being in the sense that
everything then has a context in the order of things. Appreciating for
example nature in all its glory can lead to a sense of wonder and a
realisation that there is supreme order in the Universe and that everything
has a reason to be as it is.

The article in familydoctor.org goes on to suggest a range of activities
to improve one's spiritual health with the emphasis on things that
give a person a sense of inner peace, comfort, strength, love and
connection.

For more on these go here :

http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/articles/650.html
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Inspiring Story - The Irony of Superman
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Christopher Reeve was known to millions as the star of the Superman
films. In 1995 he suffered a catastrophic equestrian accident which
not only ended his acting career but almost his life. He went from able
bodied to quadriplegic in an instant !

In his second book, "Nothing Is Impossible: Reflections on a New Life"
he reflects on the life transformation and his battle to accept his
new reality :

'Reeve emphasizes the importance of a positive mentality in the
connection which exists between mind and body. Easy? No, he never
portrays the inner work a disabled person must do as easy. His words
resonate as he reveals that fear and self-doubt which are born from
disability and setbacks in recovery can be more paralyzing than the
physical impairment itself. Frustrations, which seemingly build one
upon another, must be shattered by a never ending willingness to overcome.
Reeve also underscores the vital roles played by family, caregivers,
doctors, and therapists, as well as the faith and hope which must
pepper each of those relationships.'

For more on this amazing story go here :

http://arthritis.about.com/cs/inspiration/fr/chrisreeve.htm

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Well folks that's it for another week ! I really hope you enjoyed today's
content as much as I did putting it together ! I will be on the
lookout once again for inspirational topics and themes in the next week.
Don't forget to email me in the meantime and to visit my fan page
on Facebook : http://tiny.cc/hnmdq

Have a great week, go for your goals and see you soon !

In the meantime,

God Bless and BE INSPIRED !

Oliver
http://inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk

Friday 10 September 2010

Do YOU Have a Burning Desire to Succeed ?

10 September 2010

INSPIRED LIVING DAILY

In this issue :

1)Inspirational Quote of the Week !
2)The Desire to Succeed
3)Developing Discipline in the Quest for Success
4)How to become more Resilient
5)Inspirational Story of a man with a Burning Desire to succeed !


Well Hello One and ALL !

Happy to be back with you after last week's computer crash ! I trust
you have been moving forward in your life and job/business goals
in that time frame ? Before I forget a special WELCOME once again to
any NEW subscribers it is great to have you here ! I would love to
hear from you with any inspirational success, wealth and happiness
stories you may wish to share ! Email : oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk

So this week I am looking once again at the issue of success and some
of the 'traits' that one may need to acquire if one wants to be successful
in life. I was inspired to write this because it is my experience and
that of others that to have REAL and LASTING success in life you need
to have or acquire a certain mental outlook and corresponding
personality traits in life ! About a year ago now I purchased a
financial trading programme called The Tenkei Trading Techniques by
a gentleman called Wilson Williams.

In that programme he outlined what he called 'Super Trader' traits ie
the traits that the most successful traders in the world adopt. These
are as follows : Acceptance of losses/losing; Confidence; Desire for
Success; Devotion; Discipline; Independence; Love and Passion (for your
business);Methodology; Patience and Resilience.

Today in this themed article I am going to look at three of those
'traits' namely Desire to Succeed, Discipline and Resilience !

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Inspirational Quote of the Week
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A strong passion for any object will ensure success, for the desire
of the end will point out the means.

Henry Hazlitt

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Desire to Succeed
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"The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full
potential... these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal
excellence." Confucius China's most famous teacher, philosopher, and
political theorist, 551-479 BC)

So, as was stated by Confucius in his quote above, the 'desire to
succeed' is a necessary pre-requisite in the actual attainment of
all success in any venture in life. I mean would anybody seriously
suggest that an Olympic athlete with all the years of dedication,
training and discipline required to attain excellence in any sport
didn't have a burning desire to succeed ? No of course not ? Or that
Bill Gates didn't have a burning and unquenchable desire to achieve
the amazing global success he has with his Microsoft empire ? Again,
no !

The 'desire to succeed' is part of a wider package around the heading
of self motivation. Factors included in that will include self esteem;
desire to succeed; will power; mental stability; family; life goals;
daily activities and daily pleasures !

But......without desire an essential element to attaining success
will not be realised. I have spoken before about merely 'wanting'
something, well merely wanting success will not cut it, it has to be
the white hot of desire !

An article in Ezine Articles gives this positive definition of desire,
'The natural longing that is excited by the enjoyment or the thought
of any good, and impels to action or effort its continuance or
possession; an eager wish to obtain or enjoy.'

Desire is a powerful emotion as I am sure most of us know and if we
truly desire anything in our lives when we act on our desire we can
become unstoppable in the quest for the thing we most want or need !
Keep the passion alive and you will achieve your objectives no matter
what hurdles you face in life !

For more on the Burning Desire to Succeed go here :

http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=LtzfF&m=JlyJwEx6sL9RHx&b=BQmmpOn7wrIrKHM43K5P4Q

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Developing Discipline in the Quest for Success
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A quote from an article in Ehow.com says this :

"Anyone who desires to accomplish something must develop the
self-discipline required to keep moving toward the goal through good
and hard times. Those who succeed have disciplined themselves to not
give up at every misfortune. They are not easily swayed by negatives
or temporary failure."

You know even writing a weekly newsletter like this takes discipline
to produce !? Just the act of sitting down and typing it, compiling
it at the same time each week, researching articles etc. As last
week shows in my computer failure one is going to be met with
'temporary' failures along the way but there is a bigger goal to serve
here and that is for me to inspire people to higher levels of success,
wealth and happiness !

So in my example we see here how discipline is often related to the
attainment of a specific goal in life ?!

The article in Ehow.com goes on to say :

'Possibilities open up to those who have disciplined themselves to
look out for opportunities. They seize them, nurture them until they
create their own reality.'

Can I ask if you have defined your goals in life today are you in the
process of executing a plan to bring your goals about ? Are you taking
steps every day to the attainment of your goals ? If not why not ?
This is the very act of self discipline that will ensure YOUR success.
It is something that has to be worked at and developed even when you
don't feel like it !

I mean most of us can be self disciplined enough to get up and go to
work for a weekly or monthly pay cheque so surely it should be possible
to develop enough discipline to follow through on our personal goals ?

Most famous men and women in history have stories relating to the
seemingly overwhelming obstacles thy have had to overcome in achieving
their goals and success and in developing the self discipline
to persist even in the most difficult of times.

The good news is that you can develop the self discipline needed if
you are able to identify strong motivating goals and take consistent
and persistent action toward attaining them !

For more on how to Create Self discipline for Success and Happiness
go here :

http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=LtzfF&m=JlyJwEx6sL9RHx&b=FcwsCUaf8N_JqjgwVUOaWw
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How to Become More Resilient (and Succeed !)
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"Suppose you have tried and failed again and again," said the actress
Mary Pickford. "You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for
this thing that we call failure is not the falling down, but the
staying down."

What wise words those are ! We all have choices to make in life and
we CAN choose anything we want. You know I used to listen to people
who said things like you can 'choose to be happy' and scoff because
in my ignorance I didn't understand what I was being taught. But it
equally applies to the choice not to stay down after a heavy 'defeat',
a job loss, a divorce, serious illness, the loss of a loved one or
whatever !

But what exactly is resilience ? Resilience means essentially to
overcome adversity in the quest for personal success.

An article in Hubpages.com says as follows :

'We are naturally resilient. We have the potential to bounce back from
setbacks, to get back up when we are knocked down by adversity. But,
if we don't use it, we lose that ability over time. And, when multiple
adversities stack up on us, we get rigid, less flexible, less able
to bounce back.'

This is so true you know. Have you ever noticed how naturally resilient
children can be ? Anybody who has watched a child learning to walk
will KNOW how resilient they are ! It is their natural
instinct to keep getting back up that eventually gives them the balance
and muscle tone they need to be able to walk for the rest of their
lives ! But as the article suggests resilience is something like developing
our muscles that we have to keep doing otherwise we can stay down
too long or even permanently ?!

The article in Hubpages.com goes on to say :

"..... we can increase our ability to overcome adversity and to produce
awesome results--even in difficult circumstances. Learning to cope
successfully with failure and adversity can make us successful,
now, and in the future."

This is a very positive message. Now as someone who has had his own
share of 'down on the canvas' moments in life I can testify to the
fact that if you do not let that momentary loss/episode/defeat
stop you in your tracks, you can go on to be successful even using
what you have learned through that adversity to help and empower
not only yourself but other people !

So my advice today is don't ever quit, learn to be resilient, overcome
adversity, always get back up and take life on and you will eventually
achieve the success you so richly deserve !

For more on developing resilience go here :

http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=LtzfF&m=JlyJwEx6sL9RHx&b=WO6ohnSB8GkuewScSsdMtQ

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A man with a Burning Desire to Succeed
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In Napoloeon Hill's book 'Think and Grow Rich' in the chapter
on Desire, Hill recounts the pursuits of Edwin C Barnes.

He had nothing to offer apart from an inner burning desire to work
with Mr Thomas Edison. For those that do not know, Mr Edison was
successful entrepreneur who started the Edison Electric Light Company
and had the complete opposite lifestyle and financial status to Edwin
C Barnes at their first meeting. However Mr Barnes was so focused on
his goal, to partner with Mr.Edison, that he would not acknowledge
any barrier between him and Mr Edison. So this guy hitches a lift on
a train dressed in rags to make his way to meet Mr. Edison. Can you
imagine meeting a potential business partner that turned up looking
like a tramp?

Well the beauty is, Mr. Barnes had such a "Desire To Succeed" that he
pursued his goal and eventually did partner with Mr. Edison and became
a very wealthy man indeed. It is a classic rags to riches story.

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Ok folks that's it once again from me this week. As I always say it
is a delight to hear from you : oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk.
Thanks to several people who have taken the time to email me recently saying
how much they appreciate the newsletter.

I will continue to scour the internet on your behalf this week for
more inspiration in the quest for greater success, more wealth,
better health and happiness !

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Until next time

God Bless !

BE INSPIRED !

Oliver
http:inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk

Friday 27 August 2010

Newsletter - 27/8/10 - Do You "Desire" Success Really ?

INSPIRED LIVING DAILY

27 August 2010

In this issue :

1) Inspirational Quote of the Week
2) Success Secret - "Desire"
3) Success Secret - "Persistence"
4) Success Secret - "Subconscious Mind"
5) Inspiring story of a young man's business "start up"


A Warm Welcome once again to ALL my Subscribers !

And as ever, a particularly warm welcome to any NEW subscribers from
anywhere in the world, it's great to have you here ! I say this every
week because I mean it sincerely, I really want to hear from YOU. My
email is oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk. If there are any topics
or issues of an inspirational/motivational nature you would like me
to cover be sure to let me know !

So this week I thought I would take a look at the theme of "Success".
Now I firmly believe that we ALL have the seeds of amazing success
within us but, for whatever resaon, those seeds are not "watered" to
become a wonderful harvest of fulfilled hopes and dreams. This to me
is a waste of a God given potential. It seems that for some people
success comes easy and follows them all their lives, think
of Richard Branson or Bill Gates ? For others, they have both spectacular
successes and failures, yet again some people have modest successes
while some people go through life without any visible evidence of
success going from one problem to another!

So this got me thinking as to whether there are any "Secrets of Success"
and if so what are they. Well Napoleon Hill who wrote the classic
book "Think and Grow Rich" certainly believed that there were secrets
to getting rich and successful. In fact he identified 13 to be precise
as follows :Desire; Faith; Auto Suggestion; Specialised Knowledge;
Imagination; Organised Planning; Decision; Persistence; Mastermind;
Transmutation; Subconscious Mind; The Brain and Sixth Sense.

Today I am going to look at three of these being Desire, Persistence
and the Subconscious Mind.Enjoy !

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Inspirational Quote of the Week
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"No Man has a chance to enjoy Permanent Success until he begins to
look in a mirror for the real cause of his mistakes."

Napoleon Hill
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Secret of Success - "Desire"
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So a question for you. What is it that you want TODAY ? Do you "want" to be
successful, happy, healthy, rich, famous, attractive or whatever
you really "want".

Napoleon Hill identified as his first and primary motivation for
success as "Desire". And do you know what "Want" just doesn't get
anywhere near "Desire".

Let me explain it's simple really, if you say you "want" something
it is usually because on the other side of a "want" is a "lack".

Many people say they want success or riches or whatever but if you
examine what is going on at a subconscious level it is obvious
that the "wanting" is just wishful thinking. There is no passion
or excitement behind the wanted or hoped for thing or experience in
other words a lack of "desire".

Leslie Fieger is his ebook "Napoleon Hill's 13 Success Secrets Revealed"
says as follows :

"The sad truth about most people who claim to want success is that they
actually do not desire success.What they desire is comfort and security.
The path to real success often demands that you give up comfort and
security in order to gain rewards greater than mere creature comforts and
minor financial security. "

He goes on to say that for many years he "wanted" success and riches
but all the "wanting" in the world didn't get him what he wanted !
Describing how he made the breakthrough he says as follows :

"It was the burning passion of fervent desire that pushed me out of
my comfort zone of mediocrity and security and empowered me to achieve
real success. It was my desire that enabled me to get past the fear
of failure and get past the frustrations of obstacles to achieve the
success I had wanted for so many years".

So today I challenge you to ask youreself " Are you "wants" really
"desires" and what can you do to turn your wants into real desires ?"
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Success Secret - Persistence
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So another question for you today is how "persistent" are you or
are you prepared to be in your quest for success ? Have you had
a few setbacks or failures in life and decided to settle for a life
of struggle, mediocrity and complacency ?

Or somewhere deep in your soul and being do you still have a desire
to change your life and cirumstances ? Are you tired of the limiting
beliefs and bad habits that are holding you back ? Are you prepared to
"persist" until you succeed ?

Napoleon Hill himself said this :

" Persistence is an essential factor in transmuting desire into its
monetary equivalent."

He went on to explain that desire, otherwise known as passion,plus
the power of will (persistence) make an irresistible pair and almost
always end up producing wealth.

You know that is is clear that many many people give up on life and
on their dreams and goals far too early when in reality with a just
a little bit more desire and persistence they would have triumphed !
Just think of all those people who are now just tombstones in the
grave yard who with just an extra push could have achieved great
things for themselves and humanity !

Calvin Coolidge said this :

"Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will
not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius
will not;unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not;
the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination
alone are omnipotent."

Just remember a long attention span otherwise known as persistence
combined with determination is an attribute shared by all successful
people !
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Success Secret - The Subconscious Mind
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As I have said before in this newsletter people today are more
enlightened about the real "power of the mind" than I believe at any
prior time in human history !

You see it is clear that all success and failure reside in the mind
and only by learning to consciously create success in our minds will
we achieve the success most of us desire.

The problem is that most people don't understand that it is the
subconscious mind rather than the conscious mind where the
programming of the mind has to take place. Consciously we may say that
we desire success but buried deep in our subconscious mind are
programmes and patterns of perhaps failure that are sabotaging our
best efforts to conciously create what we desire.

Little do we realise until it is pointed out to us that it is our
subconscious mind that determines our beliefs, thoughts, actions
and therefore our results. The results we are experiencing in life
are a consequence of the working of the subconscious mind, this explains
why many people have litle success with affirmations or positive
statements. You may say aloud " I am successful" or" I am rich"
but if your subconscious mind is silently sabotaging your conscious
beliefs then the affirmations will not work !

The good news is that the subconscious mind can be programmed and controlled
by the concious mind.This can be done by the utilisation of
meditative techniques or even Emotional Freedom techniques
or again Subliminal Messaging !

If Napoleon Hill even at the time of writing his book sixty years
ago had an awareness of the impact of the subconscious mind on success
then there really is no excuse for any of us in the twenty first century
not to look into this. Once you realise that you have a limiting
belief or negative thought pattern then you really must do something
to address that if you desire to be successful.

For more on Napoleon Hill's 13 Success Secrees go here :

http://www.ezau.com/latest/articles/0131.shtml

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Inspiring story of business "start up" success
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Philip Mossop may not be an household name. But this young man from
Burley in the UK had the desire to become his own boss !

Learn more about his motivation and what inspired him to open two businesses
in the space of six months ? Asked, "What would you have done differently
if you could go back?" he says, "Absolutely nothing: you learn as much
from your mistakes as your successes."

What a tremendous outlook and philosophy !

http://www.no-limits.org.uk/success-stories/person/philip_mossop
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Well that just about wraps it up for another week ! I do hope and
trust that you have learnt something from the "secrets of success"
and Napoleon Hill's work. Now go out and apply what you have read and
learnt !

A special thank you to one of my subscribers "Thelma" this week for
all your kind comments on my work, I appreciate you ! I will be
looking for more Inspiration again in the next week scouring the
internet on your behalf for more success, wealth and happiness topics.

Please let me know what you want to see in these newsletters and all
your feedback and suggestions as to how to improve the newsletter ?

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Until next time,

God Bless and BE INSPIRED !

Oliver
www.inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk

Thursday 26 August 2010

Men After Divorce

So if you are reading this article today you are probably a divorced man maybe just recently or a while ago ? So how has life been since your divorce, were you relieved and just happy to be out of a bad situation or are you still struggling ? If you have kids where do they live, sometimes with you, sometimes with your "ex", did you have to sell your family home to make a "proper division" of your assets and to pay your legal costs ? Are you on "good terms" with your ex or is communication still difficult ?

You know it's not fashionable, never has been for men, even in this "new man" era to talk about their feelings, it's just not the done thing for "macho" strong men to break down and cry in front of their mates even if they want to. No, men are more likely to go and drown their sorrows with a few too many drinks at the bar adding to their problems !

Let's face it divorce is unpleasant ! Even the most harmonious "it is best for all concerned" divorces leaves scars for both parties ! Men in particular are the most vulnerable for the already identified inability to share their feelings and confide in their peers for fear of looking "weak". But it is a sad fact that a number of men faced with losing everything they have worked hard for, their children, their homes and money flip ! Some commit suicide and others end up "broken" , alcoholics homeless and hopeless in the gutter !

Now this article isn't about creating a "Doomsday" scenario ! We all , men and women, have to move on in life after divorce and, especially if children are involved, do the best we can for them in the situation !

However it has to be acknowledged that most, if not all, men will experience a common list of emotional problems and other difficulties after divorce. This can range from depression, to feelings of resentment that eat away at you, to financial struggles based on the divorce division which affects your attitude to money, to a broken family with your children as victims of divorce, to problems believing you will ever find happiness again.

Also may be experienced painful memories about the past, doing poorly on your job,low self esteem and lack of confidence based on the rejection you may have experienced, problems in trusting and finding love again and feeling "emasculated" or less of a man !

These are common feelings and experiences of men after the divorce. The problem is if you get "stuck" there and not able to deal with these issues in a timely manner. The sad fact is that some men can get stuck in an hole so deep that even if they manage to dig themselves out the route back to happiness and success in life and relationships is a long and difficult one.

The aim for all people and indeed all men after divorce is to be "happily divorced", such that the divorce is not the final chapter in any divorced man's life. Just like the grieving process after a bereavement must come to an end so the "grieving" for a lost relationship must also come to an end.

The aim for men in particular after divorce is to reassert one's self belief that despite having a failed marriage does not mean that you "as a man" have failed and to reconnect with one's "inner knowing" that one is still a good man and, if there are children involved, a "good father."

Sadly some men fall by the wayside but that doesn't have to happen to you !If you can deal with your own "emotional turmoil" after divorce in as well adjusted a manner as possible, you can go on to lead a successful and happy life once more. However it is useful to be able to apply some techniques and mental strategies that will help numb the grief and emotional pain in finding the future once again.I have found a great resource that I would like to recommend today. This is from a gentleman himself who experienced the "negatives" of divorce before deciding to help his "fellow" man find a better way out. For more on this from a male "survivor" of divorce go here.

Monday 23 August 2010

How to Persuade

What skill do ALL the most successful people in history possess ? Well it should be obvious that successful people have many highly effective skills but by far the most important is that of, wait for it, "Persuasion" !

The incredible power available to those who are able to persuade others has been know for centuries. As long ago as 400BC Greek philosopher Plato was famous for saying, "Persuasion is the key to power". The ability to persuade, and influence others brings great power to those that possess this ability.

'Wikipedia' the Free Encyclopedia says as follows : "Persuasion is a form of social influence. It is the process of guiding oneself or another toward the adoption of an idea, attitude, or action by rational and symbolic (though not always logical) means."

There are various methods of persuasion to be utilised including "Weapons of Influence"; "Relationship based Persuasion" and "Propoganda" !"

Under the "Weapons of Influence" category we have 6 identified types :

1)'Reciprocity' meaning essentially "one good turn deserves another " or people returning a favour;

2)'Commitment and consistency' meaning that once something has been agreed to in principle then people are more likely to follow through even if the goal posts subsequently change;

3)'Social proof' meaning that people are persuaded by what others are doing;

4)'Authority' meaning that people will follow leaders and authority figures even if asked to do objectionable acts eg in time of war;

5)'Liking'- people are more easily persuaded by people they like and this also pertains to being persuaded by physically attractive people;

6)'Scarcity'- people ae persuaded by lack or scarcity of a product or service.

Whilst the methods of persuasion are important in and of themselves, it is the abilty to personally "master" persuasion techniques and methods that is going to enable any person to achieve great success in their personal and professional lives.

For example it is proven that those who have well developed persuasion skills are able to negotiate a higher salary for themselves and indeed promotions in their job or career.

Having a highly persuasive personality will lead to increased opportunities in the business arena and increased sales. Being persuasive leads to greater success in dating and relationships and as a parent in influencing children to do your bidding. Or in getting people to listen to you and not ignore your ideas and suggestions.

So why is it that some people have highly developed persuasion skills and others can't even persuade themselves to do anything let alone others ? Are persuaders "born" or "made" and do you know "how to persuade" ?

Well it should be obvious from the above that it is possible to learn the skills of persuasion that others possess.The fact is that it has been discovered that those with an heightened abilty to persuade others to do their bidding have certain thinking or psychological "habits". In fact one "expert" who has studied persuasion for over twenty years has he believes identified "seven thinking habits" that highly effective persuaders utilise to their ultimate success.

If you feel that you would like to enhance your persuasion skills and learn how to persuade to ensure massive success in all areas of your life, then I believe that you can learn and apply these skills as taught by a best selling expert in this field. For more information on the 7 thinking habits of highly persuasive people go here.

Friday 20 August 2010

Inspired Living Daily - 20/8/10 - "What is YOUR "Money Blueprint" Today ?"

INSPIRED LIVING DAILY

20 August 2010

In this issue :

1)Inspirational "Quote of the Week";
2)What are YOUR beliefs about "wealth" and money;
3)What is spirituality anyway ?
4)How to be both Spiritual AND Wealthy (A marriage of convenience !)
5)Inspiring story of a Chinese philanthropist !


Hello again and a very Warm Welcome to ALL !

As ever, a special welcome to any new subscribers this week wherever
you are in the world, it's great to have you here ! I would really
love to hear from you particularly if anything you read in this
newsletter resonates with you and/or if you apply any of the wisdom
shared here. Be sure to email me : Oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk
Also a reminder that if you would like a few nuggets of Daily
Inspiration I have a Fan Page on Facebook under "Oliver Kent -
Inspired Living Daily". The link is here : http://tiny.cc/hnmdq

So, this week, I thought that I would take as my theme the topic of
spirituality and wealth. I think we are now in a period of greater
enlightenment than ever concerning the "spiritual laws" of the
Universe. Films like "The Secret" and the knowledge base offered
by the Law of Attraction have opened people's eyes to learning about
these laws in a way only understood by a handful of people in previous
generations ? Despite this new "knowledge" there are still people
who struggle with the idea of being both "spiritual" and "rich".
Today's Newletter examines some of these dilemmas and hopes to
present you with a new reality.

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Inspirational Quote of the Week
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"Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in every way and that your
body may keep well, even as I know your soul keeps well and
prospers." The Bible, 3 John : 2
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What are YOUR beliefs about "wealth" and money ?
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Question for you today : Have you heard of something called "The
Money Blueprint " ? Yes/No/Perhaps ?

Well this phrase was coined by T Harv Baker and essentially relates
to YOUR beliefs about money. It is suggested that your current
financial reality is a direct reflection of your beliefs about money.
Now for some people that may be an unpalatable truth requiring one
to take stock and examine that for just a moment ?!

I mean that if you are "living pay cheque to pay cheque" what is that
saying to you and, more importantly, what are the underlying and core
beliefs that inform that "lack" position ?

An article in "the-wealthy-internet-entrepreneur.com" says as
follows :

"knowing what beliefs you have about money, and therefore
understanding why your financial situation is the way it is, is
the first step in changing your money blueprint, your wealth beliefs,
so that you can start having more success with money. "

Now most people carry with them negative or limiting beliefs about
money. I am not going to rehearse them all here, most people have
an awareness of these. The fact is however that in order to adopt
a more positive "money blueprint" then one really does have to
get to grips with one's negative money beliefs.

Adopting what is known as "wealth consciousness" will attract more
money and better opportunities into your life.Having supportive
money beliefs will give you an "optimistic attitude that you have
full control over your financial situation, that you make your life
as you choose."

For more today on creating an effective "money blueprint" in your
life go here :

http://www.the-wealthy-internet-entrepreneur.com/wealth-beliefs.html

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What is spirituality anyway ?
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As the theme of the Newsletter this week is about the marriage of
spirituality and wealth I thought I would ask a question about the
nature of spirituality ? More importantly about spirituality in the
context of money and wealth.

Now Mother Theresa is one of the "icons" of spirituality of this
generation, known throughout the world for the work she did
as a humanitarian and advocate for the poor and helpless. At the
time of her death in 1997 her Missionaries of Charity was operating
610 missions in 123 countries, including hospices and homes for
people with HIV/AIDS, leprosy and tuberculosis, soup kitchens,
children's and family counselling programs, orphanages, and schools.

What is interesting to me is that Mother Theresa had a belief in
the "spiritual goodness of poverty". As a Cathoic nun that is
perhaps understandable but not many of us are called in life to
such a deep understanding of this kind. After all most of us live
in the "real world" where we have mortgages and bills to pay and
sadly "poverty" doesn't take you very far there ! It goes without
saying that because of Mother Theresa's high profile attracting
money for her humanitarian work was never an issue. She became
almost a "celebrity" in her own right.

It is my belief that to accept a position in life where one is
conflicted between one's spritual beliefs and acquiring wealth is
not what the Creator (God) intended. What is important is the "intention"
behind the desire to create wealth and having a specific purpose
for that desire.By adopting a stance of "poverty" based on one's
spirituality one is then continually in a state of dependence on
others both individuals and institutions. Whilst a temporary state
of poverty may be enlightening, I am of the firm belief that a more
"empowered" position is to be both spiritual AND wealthy.

For an interesting article entitled "10 Spiritual Money Practices
to Eliminate Poverty" go here :

http://reallifespirituality.com/spiritual-money-practice/

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How to be both Spiritual and Wealthy
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So if you have read through this Newsletter so far you may have
accepted or indeed not, it's your choice, that you can be both spiritual
and wealthy in life ? Indeed that is an entirely consistent position
to aim for in my opinion.

I am always impressed by a British TV programme called "The Secret
Millionaire". In that programme self confessed millionaires, many
of whom are very wealthy indeed, are invited to go and live in
a "run down" or socially and economically deprived area of Britain
"under cover". They are usually offered a very ordinary house or
flat with a lack of amenities that they probably have never
experienced before in their lives or at least for a very long time.
They then go into the local communities and "volunteer" their
services to charitable projects or agencies of one kind or another.
At the end of the programme their cover is "blown" and they then
give large financial donations to what they consider the most deserving.

My point here is that these are individuals whose whole "reason
for existing" has been about making money or becoming wealthy.
For a number of them being exposed to the difficulties that some
people experience in life gives them an whole knew understanding.
My belief is that in the act of "giving" their time and money in this
way is showing them the link between spirituality and wealth ?
Of course if they weren't wealthy in the first place this would be
a non starter.

Wealth in and of itself is a "neutral" thing. For me the only reason
to be "wealthy" is for the good one can do with it. And it is in
the "doing good" that one's spritual gifts are nurtured.

Finding one's "purpose" in life is I believe a spiritual thing and
can lead to great wealth of one kind or another. Serving people and
helping people find solutions to their problems are both spiritual
practices and in the process have made many people vastly wealthy.

For more on the convenient "marriage" of spirituality and wealth
go here :
http://ezinearticles.com/?Spirituality-and-Wealth&id=1442362

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Inspiring Story of a Chinese philanthropist
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"Yu Pengnian's journey from poor street hawker to Hong Kong real
estate magnate was already a remarkable one. Then the 88 year old
did something even rarer that shocked many in increasingly
materialistic China: He gave it all away.

Mr. Yu is pleased to have his family's support, but says he would
have gone ahead with his philanthropy with or without their
approval. "I don't care what others think. It makes me happy to
give my money away. I used to be poor." "

For more on this amazing story go here :

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/world/chinese-philanthropist-
donates-it-all/article1650447/

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Well, as they say, "that's all there is for now folks". I do hope that
you have enjoyed this week's "themed" newsletter. I shall be looking
for more Inspiration in the coming week to help you on your
journey to greater success, more enlightenment, better relationships
or whatever area you would like to develop in life. Please email me
:Oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk and let me know what you would
like to see covered in future editions.

Don't forget to look out for the mid week Article on a personal
development/self improvement theme to your In box. Also join me
on the Facebook Fan page : http://tiny.cc/hnmdq

Until next time,

God bless and BE INSPIRED !

Oliver
http://inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk

Children and Divorce

It's a sad fact that nearly 50% of first marriages in countries like the US and the UK end in divorce these days with an even higher figure for second time marriages at around 60% to 80% of those ending in divorce.

It's a fair bet that if those first or indeed second marriages have lasted for just a few years there are likely to be one, two or even more children to that relationship. It can be truly said that children are the "innocent casualties" of a divorce however amicable between the parties !

What is important to realise for the adults in any divorce is that it is the children who have the most to lose in the situation if it is not handled right by either or both of the parties involved. Divorce is often a time of high emotions that if they get out of hand can damage the children to the divorce for the rest of their lives !

Children's lives are changed for ever after divorce or separation with one or both parties agreeing to go their separate ways. As a consequence some children will remain in the former matrimonial family home or maybe have to move to a new flat or house or series of different abodes in the quest for stability after the divorce process.

Children may only see their mother or father infrequently after the divorce depending on any outcome to custody or visitation or access rights. Many Dad or Mums become "weekenders" grabbing a couple of nights here or there throughout the month or in a best case sharing custody equally.

Children may live many miles from one or other of their parents and in some cases one parent will leave the country after divorce meaning that children may only see their absent parent at holiday times or not at all for long periods of time.

I am sure if you are preparing to be a divorced parent you will encounter a number of these scenarios after your divorce involving your children. I know that in many cases the "aftermath" of divorce lasts well into adulthood for many children and that is an unavoidable fact !

So faced with this daunting prospect what is the best ANY parent can do if they have reached the point where divorce is an inevitabilty and the children's needs in relation to knowing about this matter have to be taken into account !

The fact is that children do have a fundamental right to be told about an impending divorce or separation by one or both parties to the marriage and to be told in such a way that keeps them safe and honours their feelings ?

So what do the experts recommend as to the best way of doing this ? These are some guidelines :

1)If possible confer with your spouse before telling the children about divorce. This may not always be easy particularly if relations are strained but is in the children's best interests;

2)If possible both parents should be in attendance when telling the children and all children to the marriage should be told at the same time together;

3)Remain calm and avoid blame, the better able parents are able to do this the better will children hear the news and accept it;

4)Offer a generalised reason for the divorce without going into too much personal detail;

5)Tell the children what specific changes are likely to take place as a consequence of the divorce. This is likely to be short term such as where they will be living and with whom etc.

6)Where will the "absent parent" be living and when and where can the children expect to see him or her;

7) Reassure the childen that the divorce is none of their doing. Reaffirm the love that both parents have for their children collectively and individually and despite the change of circumstances the children are still loved by both parents equally;

8)Accept your children's reactions to this news. Whatever way they react either with confused or difficult emotions continue to reassure them. They need to feel that it's OK to cry or whatever;

9)Respond appropriately to their questions and answer as truthfully as you can with what you know at the time;

10)The children will need time to adjust to the news and to begin to see that the future although different can still be hopeful with both parents continuing to play a positive role in their lives.

I do hope the above will be useful to you in the challenge of explaining to your children of whatever age about your impending divorce.

I have recently discovered an innovative guidebook which helps you to put together a personal family storybook to help prepare children for divorce, This is in age related language for children from very young ages up to pre adult teens. I really think this can help enormously prepare children in the best way to face their parents' divorce. For more on this go here.

Divorced Dad's Survival Guide

Hello again

I have written a previous article on 'Go Articles' warning of the potential for dire consequences for divorcing men called "Attention ALL Men. A Divorce Lawyer's "Insider Secrets" to Win Your Divorce."

I thought I would return to this subject in this article once again to sound a warning to ALL men that if divorce is "in the air" between you and your spouse, then you really have to get up to speed as quickly as possible if you are not to risk losing everything your children, your home and money !

I thought it may be helpful to detail some of my own personal experiences to demonstrate how a bad situation (ie divorce) can become a nightmare if you are not careful. I would particularly like to highlight the situation of divorced fathers and children and my own worst case scenario.

In 2007 my wife initiated a divorce based on our marriage having "irretrievably broken down". This "grounds for divorce" can cover a multitude of sins but certainly, in many cases, is not a mutually agreed situation, rather one party deciding that they "want out".

For many people the shock of a spouse initiating a divorce can be very profound but this quickly becomes compounded if the divorcing spouse refuses any call for reconciliation or exploring any option other than divorce.

Moving on from the shock of that, it is difficult for many people to "get their heads together" at this time, but ironically this is THE time that you need all your wits about you and particularly as a man if you are not to risk losing everything including your children, your home and your money !

In my own case, a devastating divorce process was compounded by my wife, being from South Africa, deciding that after the divorce she would like to return to her home country. I was adamantly opposed to this as my children are still young. I was then subsequently embroiled in a "do or die" process through the British courts to try and stop this happening ! Unfortunately, not having vast financial wealth at that time, meant I was reliant on a form of legally aided advice. I consulted lawyers privately and was told that it would cost many tens of thousands of pounds to have even a 50/50 chance of stopping the application. This was based on the fact that the British courts are some of the most lenient ones in the world in granting these applications. So, as you might guess, the inevitable happened and my wife was granted leave to take the children abroad having satisfied the court that she could house, educate and provide for them. Also that if she was forced to remain in the country her "distress" would impact negatively on the children. Nothing was said about the "distress"of the parent left behind !

So where am I now ? Nearly two years has gone by since my children left their "home country". Birthdays and Christmases have gone by with their father being absent. In two years there have been only two visits for a couple of weeks at a time. Thanks to Skype I have regular contact over the internet with my children but that does not substitute in any way for "being there" for my children.

So why have I written this intensely personal and difficult article ? Not for sympathy that is sure. If you are a man facing divorce today I am here to warn you this is the potential reality ! If you have children as I do the consequences of divorce may be that you don't see your children ever again, infrequently over years like me or you manage to see your kids every two weeks or once a month. There may be all kinds of ongoing custody and child maintenance processes and procedures. In the meantime your own life and capacity for longer term happiness can be compromised.

Please listen to my voice of experience in these matters, this is serious. If you are a man today with children and you are facing divorce "forewarned is forearmed". You need to "get with the programme as quickly as possible or risk losing everything ! In these circumstances I am going to recommend a highly regarded resource, it is called "The Divorced Dad's Survival Guide". The best of luck ! For more on this click here.

How to Overcome Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)is a condition that can have profound effects on its sufferers. Maybe you know someone who suffers with OCD, a family member or friend, a child or have picked up
information from other sources,TV, magazine articles or books etc.

Whatever the source of your knowledge or information it should be obvious that this condition with its rituals and "odd" behaviours is one that causes individuals and their families much stress and anxiety !

So what exactly is OCD ? One definition goes as follows : "Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a mental disorder characterized by intrusive thoughts that produce anxiety, by repetitive behaviors aimed at reducing anxiety, or by combinations of such thoughts obsessions) and behaviors (compulsions). ... "

Further it goes on to say :"people with obsessive compulsive disorder are troubled by intrusive thoughts, images, impulses or doubts. Usually these are also accompanied by compulsions where the person has to either do or think something to make themselves feel better or to prevent bad things from happening."

The obsessive thoughts experienced by the sufferer of OCD lead to compulsive actions, such as cleaning, checking, counting, or hoarding. The person becomes trapped in a pattern of repetitive thoughts and behaviors that are senseless and distressing but very hard to stop.

Most people with obsessive-compulsive disorder fall into one of the following categories:

1)Washers are afraid of contamination. They usually have cleaning or hand-washing compulsions.

2)Checkers repeatedly check things (oven turned off, door locked, etc.) that they associate with harm or danger.

3)Doubters and sinners are afraid that if everything isn't perfect or done just right something terrible will happen or they will be punished.

4)Counters and arrangers are obsessed with order and symmetry. They may have superstitions about certain numbers, colors, or arrangements.

5)Hoarders fear that something bad will happen if they throw anything away. They compulsively hoard things that they don't need or use.

As you might imagine from all these categories OCD is a very limiting condition.With obsessive-compulsive disorder, these thoughts and behaviours cause tremendous distress, take up a lot of time, and interfere with the sufferer's daily routine, job, or relationships.

There are a range of therapies and treatments available to those suffering from OCD from medication, to "talking" and group therapies to alternative therapies such as homeopathy or acupincture. However these are not effective for all people all of the time and often do not get to the "root cauuse" of the condition.

For me it is always important to listen to people who have the "voice of experience" to offer, that is to say someone who has suffered with a condition and has gone on to overcome it. Just such a man is someone who has written a book to detail his story of twenty five years of OCD from childhood until his own ten year long research produced a cure.

This story is especially worth looking at if you have a child suffering with OCD or are an adult whose personal and professional life is being disrupted by the effects of OCD. If you would like to investigate a cure for your or a loved one's OCD today please take a look at The Root Cause.

Unstoppable Confidence

Hello again

May I ask you a question today please ? Do you have 'Unstoppable Confidence' in Yourself ? Yes/No/Maybe ? Interesting question isn't it and it may well throw up some interesting answers. After all we all think we know what "confidence" is and whether we have it or not but......unstoppable confidence now there's a different thing altogether !?

Let's backtrack for a moment and ask ourselves "what is confidence" ? A dictionary definition says as follows : an "assurance: freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities". Literally therefore confidence is having a self belief and inner knowing that one has all one needs to perform in life to the best of one's capabilities.

Now we all know people in life who lack confidence, maybe their self esteem was damaged in their childhood and they struggle to believe anything good about themselves. Perhaps their families or a teacher told them that they " would never amount to much" or that the dreams they had a children were the sort of stuff that didn't happen to people like them or from their background.

The fact is that "self confidence" is the bedrock of ALL success in life whether in relationships, in jobs or careers or in business. Without confidence in yourself and your abilities life is going to be a struggle.

So the question is no matter what your background how do you become confident in yourself and, even better, if you are already confident how do you develop unstoppable confidence in yourself ?

Just imagine some of the benefits of developing unstoppable confidence in yourself :

1)Mentally - Have the ability to challenge yourself by stating your opinion without being afraid to be wrong;this also includes thinking for yourself and having confidence in your beliefs despite opposition;
2)Physically - This leads to an healthier lifestyle because you believe it's possible for yourself;this confidence can also be applied to addictions such as smoking or overeating;
3)Spiritually - develop a greater belief in your "deservedness" and have greater faith in yourself, others and in the divine having a purpose for you;
4)Interpersonally - develop leadership skills and other "interpersonal skills" such
as persuasion, communication, influencing and the ability to "sell" yourself;
5)Financially/career - follow your financial goals and career/ business dreams because you are "worth it" and know the value you have to offer the world;
6)Emotionally - become a problem solver and learn how to express your emotions and gratitude at a deeper level;
7)Hobbies/recreation - learn how to speak without fear in public and to take up new pursuits without having to excel from the outset.

As you can imagine from the list above having that unstoppable confidence would lead to an amazing sense of fulfillment and belief that any or all goals are achievable.

Many people have to embark on a journey maybe from shyness and lack of self esteem to increasing self confidence to a further breakthrough to unstoppable confidence . It is a question of having small successes leading to bigger ones and then even bigger dreams and goals.

The fact is however that people often cannot develop confidence in and of themselves without help. Developing confidence is a process like any other but most people suffering with a confidence issue need to learn some techniques particularly if they suffer from shyness or social phobia or some other issue with self esteem.

With this in mind I would like to recommend an invaluable resource written by a person who had to overcome extreme shyness to becoming super confident in his own life.

Having studied the issue of confidence and unstoppable confidence for many years and applied many techniques to himself he is in an "expert" postion to help others move forward to help them achieve all their dreams and goals. If you are looking today to eradicate lack of confidence in your life or of someone you know then please take a look at this. Click here.

Treatment for Depression

It is estimated that one in four people will experience depression at some point in their lives. That's quite a high figure I am sure you will agree and there are probably many more people who never get diagnosed ? So what is the impact of depression on people's lives ?

Well it causes tremendous emotional pain; it disrupts the lives of millions of people; it adversely affects the lives of families and friends; it reduces work productivity and leads to absenteeism and it has a significant negative impact on the economy.

Depression is an horrible illness I should know. I suffered depression for several years in my early adult life ostensibly brought on a by a serous car accident. This is knowm in the psychiatric profession I think as "reactive depression". At the time the main treatment offered for my depression was anti depressants and that is probably the common experience of the majority of those people experiencing depression.

Unfortunately as anybody knows drugs such as anti depressants have side effects which can be unpleasant in and of themselves. In reality the anti depressants often only give the depression suffererer light relief and merely suppress the symptoms of the illness not dealing with the root cause.

So what are the main causes of depression and other treatment/s for depression available. To summarise the causes of depression these include but are not limited to :

1)Abuse. Past physical, sexual, or emotional abuse can cause depression later in life;

2)Certain medications. For example, some drugs used to treat high blood pressure, such as beta-blockers or reserpine, can increase your risk of depression;

3)Conflict. Depression may result from personal conflicts or disputes with family members or friends;

4)Death or a loss. Sadness or grief from the death or loss of a loved one, though natural, can also increase the risk of depression;

5)Genetics. A family history of depression may increase the risk. It's thought that depression is passed genetically from one generation to the next;

5)Major events. Even good events such as starting a new job, graduating, or getting married can lead to depression. So can moving, losing a job or income, getting divorced, or retiring;

6)Other personal problems. Problems such as social isolation due to other mental illnesses or being cast out of a family or social group can lead to depression;

7)Serious illnesses. Sometimes depression co-exists with a major illness or is a reaction to the illness;

8)Substance abuse. Nearly 30% of people with substance abuse problems also have major or clinical depression.

Those then are some of the major causes of depression what then about treatment/s for depression ? These fall mainly into two categories :

a)Medications. A number of antidepressant medications are available to treat depression. There are several different types of antidepressants. Antidepressants are generally categorized by how they affect the naturally occurring chemicals in a person's brain to change their mood.

b)Psychotherapy is a general term for a way of treating depression by talking about your condition and related issues with a mental health provider. Psychotherapy is also known as therapy, talk therapy, counseling or psychosocial therapy.

I think you will agree from all of the above both the effects, causes and treatments for clinical depression mean that it is a serious disease with serious consequences.

Most people, and I include myself in that, would agree that if they could find an alternative method of treatment not including medication or "pscho babble" for depression that would merit serious consideration. I believe I have uncovered such a treatment.

It has been pioneered by a man who himself suffered from depression for eight years. If you or a loved one are suffering from depression today I urge you to take an "open minded" look at this. If you want to get rid of the pills with their lousy side effects or make your "shrink" redundant this could be your time ! Please take a look here.

Making Friend Made Easy

Hello again

There's a very famous self help book called 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie published I believe in the 1930s.

However the problem of "winning friends" is not an issue of the last century but one that affects every generation. In today's fast paced world, people often don't even have time to make real friendships often relying instead on "cyber friendships" such as those on social media like Facebook and Twitter.

But with a vastly more disparate society and a growing population of singletons through divorce and longer life span it's perhaps more important than ever that people go back to the time honoured methods of "winning friends".

I mean without friends then one risks loneliness, isolation and feelings of rejection which can lead to more serious problems such as depression, so it is worth investing time in understanding both how to make and keep friends.

So if you are having trouble making friends or indeed keeping the ones you have what are some things you can do ? After all we all have to realise that in order to make friends the onus is on us to be proactive and put ourselves "out there." Now if you are shy or in some way mildly socially phobic this will be more difficult than for someone who is a self confident extrovert. But you have to ask yourself the question what are the alternatives ? Making friends is every bit as needed as having a job or career for one'e emotional and psychological health so it is worth overcoming one's fears to put oneself about.

Here are some good "common sense" suggestions as to making friends :

1)You may have a hobby or other interest such as sport or a religious faith that would be an obvious way of getting involved and making friends. Join your local church/mosque/temple or photography club or whatever interest you have. You will know at once that you have a common interest with its members so having something to talk about won't be a problem. One of the hardest parts of forming friendships is that initial small talk with another person. If you know from the start that you have something in common then it's a natural "opener".

2)Related to point number one is volunteering your time to a charity or other agency. This is particularly good if you don't have a lot of hobbies ?It may only be an hour a week but once again having an interest such as charitable work with the elderly or animal rescue will bring you into contact with like minded people and the potential for new friendships.

3)You have to realise that you will not make friends without "talking to people". Now this may be self evident but how often have we seen people attending social situations who hold themselves back and do not initiate conversation and then wonder why no body talked to them. Communication and indeed conversation is a two way process and we all have to take responsibility for initiating that if we are in a group situation. If it is your intention to make new friends you just have to 'bite the bullet' and learn how to initiate conversations. Take an interest in the other person and they will take an interest in you.

4)Learn how to make "small talk", inconsequential dialogue about nothing in particular that may lead to something more meaningful later down the line. You can practice this in your post office queue, or when you are lining up in the office canteen for lunch, just learn how to talk to the person next to you in the queue about what's in the news that day or whatever ?

5)Be aware of your physical presence and be sure to smile at the other person and make eye contact when initiating the friendship ritual. People are more likely to want to be friends if you make them feel comfortable but often due to shyness or nervousness then people forget this when starting out in the game of friendship.

6)There is a great deal of information available about "rapport building" these days. Essentially this means that you can learn to "mirror and match" another person in terms of their body language and physicality including facial expressions, tone of voice, words used etc. This is a wonderful tool for building empathy with another person and creating instant mutual respect and harmony.

There are many other things you can do to encourage friendship with another person but it is the initial "vibes" that will decide if a friendship will develop from perhaps a chance encounter. And remember that all great relationships start off the way they intend to carry on so it is worth investing time and effort in the initial friendship encounter.

If you would like some great practical steps for developing friendship in the twenty first century in the quickest possible time I highly recommend the following and good luck ! Click here.

Monday 16 August 2010

Inspired Living Daily - Newsletter 13/8/10. Can you "Sell" Yourself

INSPIRED LIVING DAILY

13 August 2010

In this Issue :

1)Inspirational Quote of the Week;
2)Top Motivation Tips;
3)How to Really "Sell" Yourself;
4)The Law of Attraction Fact or Fantasy ?
5)The poem from the film "Invictus" (Unconquered)


A very Warm Welcome to Everyone once again

If you are new to my Newsletter this week, I really hope you enjoy it
and gain some positive INSPIRATION from it to help YOUR daily life,
indeed to live an "inspired life" at all times ! As ever, I want to
hear from you on any subject at all and particularly if you have
implemented anything you read about here. My email address is
Oliver@inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk

This week on my Facebook Fan Page (http://tiny.cc/hnmdq, please join
me there !) I have been highlighting some of the great inspirational
speakers in history. People like Sir Winston Churchill, John F Kennedy,
Nelson Mandela and more recently Barak Obama. They all have or had
an amazing ability to connect with the "hearts and minds" of their
audiences and stir them to action !

If you received my mid week article this week you will understand the
importance of public speaking and how mastering a "skill" like that
can have hidden benefits in all areas of your life. You never know
you might go on to become the "next Barak Obama" who rose from a
lowly senator to the highest public office in the world in just four
years largely as a result of his great oratory ! Now that is
inspirational !

Related to the skill of public speaking is the ability to "sell
yourself". More on that later in this Newsletter !
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Inspirational Quote of the WEEK
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"The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his
opportunity when it comes."

Benjamin Disraeli
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Top Motivation Tips
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So can I ask how "motivated" are you in life at the moment ? A lot,
motivated in some areas and not others, not at all motivated by very
much at all ?! You know that when things are going well in life you
are feeling highly motivated but, at other times, things just become
a chore !

So what are some things that we can do to improve our motivation in
life ? Well one thing you can do is something I just did (did you
notice ?), I asked you a Question ! You can regularly ask yourself
on a daily basis questions such as, "What am I happy about in my life
right now ?" or "What am I excited about in my life right now ?"
Now depending on your answer to these questions you will be able to
gauge your general level of emotional well being and as to a sense
of whether you need to do something to boost your motivation ?

If you are struggling to get started with something or you are
procrastinating on a project you need to identify "reasons" as to why
completing that task will improve the quality of life for you or
people about you and as to how you will reward yourself once it's done.
Let's say your garage space (if you have one ?) is cluttered with
old junk and you are not able to store any new stuff ? Maybe you have
just bought a new car or motorbike and would really love to keep it
looking its best by parking it in the garage. Having a clear garage
will enable you to house your "prized possession" and give you a
sense of satisfaction for a job well done !

In motivational terms, we are always looking at the "benefits" of
completing an action or task (or at least getting started) against
the "cost" of putting it off. Delayed gratification (in layman's
terms means putting something off !) in life often leads to more
frustration which leads to even less motivation to change or improve
a situation, it a vicious circle !

There are many other motivational tips and techniques for getting
started where motivation is lacking. For 25 Simple Ways to Motivate
Yourself please go here :

http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2007/06/13/25-simple-ways-to
-motivate-yourself/

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How to REALLY Sell Yourself ?
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Now many people recoil when they hear the word "sales" or "selling
onself" ! Now why is that I wonder ?

Well the obvious answer is that people associate the word "sales" or
"selling" with some people we may like to avoid such as estate agents
or double glazing sales people (apologies to any people from those
professions here !) but you know the point ! Nobody likes being
"sold to" or "manipulated" into buying anything.

But,and it is a big BUT,just like anything in the self improvement/
personal development world we have to accept the fact that at some
level we are all "sales people." We need to become comfortable with
that and accept the responsibilty that comes with that to develop
our "personal sales skills". This could be in a formal context such
as a job interview or even in a family envoronment where we may be
wanting to convince our children (if we have any ?) that certain
behaviours are not good for them e.g "under age" drinking. It is our
capacity to "sell" or in another way persuade, convince or influence
that is important here.

If you are struggling today with the idea and reality of needing to
sell yourself an article in PickTheBrain.com says this about one's
self worth.It suggests the following:

"Live in such a way that you would want to be friends with yourself.
Find some time to reflect on what you like about yourself. If this
seems hard, start with the smallest of attributes.Don't do anything
that will give you cause to feel ashamed later."

The article goes on to say that the key to selling oneself is "to be
sold on yourself" meaning that unless and until you are comfortable
and confident in your own skin you will not be able to sell yourself
to others. This is the fundamental TRUTH to selling yourself
succesfully and that is to have an awareness of your own "self worth."

For more on how to really sell yourself in life go here :

http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/how-to-sell-yourself/
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Law of Attraction Fact or Fantasy ?
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You have no doubt heard about The Law of Attraction ('LoA') these days ?

If you have been around the self help industry in recent years you
will know that the LoA has become mainstream as popularised by
the hit film "The Secret". This introduced people to concepts such
as "thoughts become things" and "become what you think most about".

In many ways it has opened people's eyes to a whole new world of
possibilities in life that they never knew existed before !?

People are " manifesting" this or "deliberately creating" that in
their lives all the time now.

I certainly believe that LoA has many attractive things to offer
with its positive messages and also by warning us of "problems"
in our thought lives ? For example by focusing on things that we
"don't want" in our lives such as poverty or lack we are unconsciously
creating more of the lack we are complaining of. It's a vicious circle
we need to break if we are to get all our "wants" met.

Now it has to be said that people aren't always able to attract what
they want into their lives by the LoA. It is often not understood
that many people have buried in their subconscious minds "limiting
beliefs" that the conscious mind can't dislodge, even by repeating
positive affirnmations to our conscious minds. For this they need
to try other methods such as "subliminal messaging" or other
techniques such as Emotional Freedom Technique to dislodge the negative
unconscious belief.

So if you have used the LoA in your life I would really like to
hear from you as to the results you have been seeing ? I do believe
that LoA is a fact and has powerful spiritual truths in it so it is
worth persevering with !

If you would like to know more about continuing on with the Law of
Attraction go here :http://www.lawofabundantattraction.com/
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Poem from the film "Invictus"
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The film "Invictus" portrayed the relationship between Nelson Mandela
and the South African World Cup Winning Captain Francois Pienaar
in their World Cup triumph of 1995.

The poem "Invictus" was the central inspirational gift from Mandela to
Pienaar before the Final.

The final verse reads :

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

For the rest of the poem go here : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Invictus

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improvement and personal development/success techniques, strategies
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Oliver@inspiredlivingdily.co.uk

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BE INSPIRED and God Bless !

Oliver
www.inspiredlivingdaily.co.uk