How to enhance YOUR relationship by asking the right questions ?

Did you know that an estimated 83 % of relationships could be saved if couples were to learn to ask each other the right questions ? Just think about that for a moment, it's an astonishing statistic I am sure you agree ?

Now bearing in mind that divorce takes across the Western world are at epidemic proportions and the statistics for second and third marriages are no more encouraging it should be self evident that there is a powerful truth here !

I mean our traditional dating methods get us to know like and trust the person we are with but how well REALLY do we "know" our spouse or partner. We have all heard horror stories where someone has married someone else and subsequently they find out that the person has two or three other wives and countless children. Now that kind of situation is not really the scope of this article but ......

However there is a legitimacy in finding out as much as we can about our spouse or partner their likes and dislikes what pleases them or displeases them and so on. But there is a much deeper level in relation to a person's thoughts, feelings and desires which some couples either before dating or after a relationship has commenced find difficult to explore.

If you already have a strong relationship with your spouse or partner then asking the right questions will make the love bond even more solid. For others it may reveal areas that they have to work hard on. Asking the right questions at the start of a relationship may lead a person to think that the person is not the right one for them and that's good too. The pain of divorce on all parties not least children is something to avoid at all costs so it's worth investing time and energy into the process.

There is a lot to gain from this process once commenced and it doesn't need to be an interrogatory process, rather fun and an enjoyable learning process. Let's say one person like pets and the other doesn't asking that question gives a greater understanding of why and what to do about the subject It may even lead to a satisfactory compromise for example a goldfish rather than a cat !

I do encourage you to consider this practice and the benefits it can bring to your relationship. The stranger the relationship the happier you will be and your spouse or partner.

Oliver Kent is a Qualified Professional Life Coach. For a valuable resource in asking the right questions in a relationship please go here : http://tiny.cc/ct8ml