The Happy Child Guide

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Are you a parent of young children ? Do they sometimes/often misbehave ? Are you at your wits end ? If so read on, help is at hand !Now no doubt you have seen parenting programmes like 'Super Nanny' and envied the 'expert' descending on your house to help you deal with your unruly kids. My heart really goes out to some of the parents (and indeed) children featured in those programmes. Calm descends on the household and Super Nanny goes on her merry way like Mary Poppins having brought peace and harmony to an embattled home !

If only real life were like that ?! For most parents dealing with children with behavioural problems is at best challenging and at worst a living kind of 'hell' !

Now I have made a discovery and it is a secret a lot of child behaviour programmes certainly on television don't deal with. You see they tend to concentrate on behaviour or misbehaviour and therefore behaviour modification techniques etc. The 'naughty step' seems to become the 'must have' tool for any stressed out parent dealing with a child's wilful and stubborn behaviour.

What many of these programmes fail to address is the child's psychology related to his or her brain biochemistry and the effects of that. Now I want to stress here I am not seeking to 'medicalise' any child's naughty behaviour and it is clear there are some medical conditions such as Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and Attention Hyperactivity Disorder (AHD) that do need diagnosis.

No, what I am talking about here is the effect of hormones in the brain called 'cortisol'. Getting into stressed emotional states causes the adrenal glands in the body to release toxic hormones into the brain called cortisol.The science shows that BEFORE a child misbehaves there is a release of excessive amounts of cortisol into the brain. Essentially therefore if a child gets stressed or overstimulated this excessively toxic hormone is 'at play'.Therefore if a child becomes hyperactive, defiant, argumentative,unfocuussed and even physically violent this can be seen as a direct esult of what is going on in their brain at that time.

I think you will agree this discovery explains a lot ? After all it makes sense, we all get stressed from time to time and behave irrationally as a result ? You only have to look at 'road rage' where drivers 'cut each other up' and behave in a totally ilogical manner.

It is important to say here that stress is not THE only cause of misbehaviour by a child, but it is one of the three major causes identified by child brain experts. The other two are that they may have a genuine need or they just don't understand something.

Another important factor is that so many so called child behaviour experts rely on models of punishment and reward.If you want to rid yourself of the stressful misbehaviour permanently and have a child who is genuinely cooperative, loving, intelligent,focussed and happy for life you need to focus on different discipline techniques that are not based on reward or punishment. These are the least effective methods of getting a child to listen and cooperate.These old methods can potentially have life long consequences in reducing a child's self esteem and confidence.

So if you would like to find another more effective way of disciplining your child, I have found an amazing resource written by a true child expert who not only understands the way in which your child's brain works, but can show you highly effective techniques that don't rely on misguided and outdated models of child correction. Please copy and paste this link into your web browser : http://tiny.cc/5tvs5

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